He's not that into guys

[marvin_ua]

Hi everyone :) So, one month ago or so I've met this handsome guy online. We were only chatting now and then, he said he was bi and the first time he's tried sex with a guy was three years ago. Since that time he had it for a few more times but was never actually getting much pleasure from a guy (although he remembers himself falling for guys and

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[_candide_]

Well, there's bi, and then there's bi.

Too many men who really have no interest whatsoever in women will call themselves, "bi," under the idiotic misconception that calling themselves, "gay," will emasculate them. This leads to the equally-idiotic misconception that there's no such thing as bisexuality.

Too many men who find both men and women attractive freak out about their same-sex attraction. They call themselves, "bi," secretly fearing that their attraction to guys will cause their dicks to retreat into their crotch and turn into a vagina. Not wanting to lose their heterosexual privilege, they publicly date women. Because they're assholes, they fool around on the side with men. It has nothing to do with their sexuality, nothing to do with being attracted to men, nothing to do with being attracted to women. If they were purely straight or purely gay and in a relationship, they'd still be fooling around on the side. Unfortunately, these jerks end up giving everyone who identifies as, "bi," a bad name.

Then there's the 3rd

[marvin_ua]

rogonandi, thank you for the optimistic point :)

shadowof1, I'm sort of agree with you. It would annoy me so much if women were involved.

pensivegargoyle, so do some gay men as well as some straight men. I guess many men in general have such issues. Though yes, bi's may have some more 'opportunities for diversity' and maybe that makes 'em that way.

_candide_, thanx for this classification. And know what? I start to think you might be absolutely right to have called him 2nd type. Because we were supposed to go out yesterday night and then he figured out some guy was going there with his girlfriends. When we were there that last time, my bi told one of those girls he was straight when she asked him for a dance. So he was freaked out to go there with me again, he told it'd be embarassing for him and he wouldn't be able to relax and have a good time.