Comments | average_homos: bottoming for tops

chamcha in average_homos

bottoming for tops

Dec 06, 2009 17:53

i am (or used to consider myself) all top. my boyfriend has trouble taking me, though. so, he wants to start topping. he is rather large, and i have never been fucked. advice on preparing? (best method?, how long should it take?, positions to consider?, anything i'm not considering?)

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sourdick December 6 2009, 23:10:01 UTC

anything i'm not considering?
Consider posting in the "gay sex tips" community instead of this one.

chamcha December 7 2009, 05:07:06 UTC

i refuse to be a member of such a vile community.

lux_apollo December 7 2009, 07:48:04 UTC

Have you even taken a look at that community first? If you'd just take the time to have a glance around there, you can find exactly the answers you are looking for. You shouldn't even need to make an actual post. Your question is a pretty freaking common one when push comes to shove.

The only thing 'vile' here is your attitude. Get over yourself.

chamcha December 7 2009, 14:06:20 UTC

someone has a dick too far up his ass to recognize sarcasm. chill out.

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benjersthefish December 6 2009, 23:16:08 UTC

Can't possibly answer this question without pictures. sorry.

greydruid December 6 2009, 23:21:34 UTC

Start with fingers, work your way up. Use LOTS of patience, communication, and LUBE.

dc_gay_man December 6 2009, 23:25:04 UTC

Make sure you play at the right time of the day too. Fun, frisky, and relaxed are keys to figuring out time of day.

evil_admiral December 7 2009, 00:52:30 UTC

Lube, lube lube! A good lube can make all of the difference in sex. I swear by water based lubes, particularly Gun Oil H2O. Next thing is to be relaxed and at ease. Lots of foreplay (sexual activities, making out, or just watching porn) will help you feel relaxed and at ease. Then lots of fingering. Get that hole open! And if you two are into that, rimming is a great way to relax/be relaxed and feel good.

Oh, and I also think we could better help you if we had pictures of what you two have to work with. ;) =P

rogonandi December 7 2009, 01:24:01 UTC

The most important thing is to be patient and get entered slowly. This'll allow for your body to adjust to him entering and also a chance to relax. Your body's probably going to want to tighten most of its muscles upon the feeling of a cock entering, but once those subside a little bit you can get him to go a little deeper until you're past the anal sphincter and things start getting comfortable. Masturbation helps too to get your mind off of potential discomfort.

A good position that I find is straddling his cock with you on top, easing yourself down on your partner. This way you've got complete control over the speed and depth of entry. It also helps that the bouncing action you will have feels fantastic. ;)

Oh, and use protection as well. Riding bareback is fun, but unless you completely trust your boyfriend, it's probably not a good idea.