Does he know these things about you Kate?? I mean, you are giving the guy a chance, but does he know that he's getting this chance?? Because honestly, if you get rid of a guy like that, you might just end up with more "Ryans". Instead of trying to run away from him, talk to him. Tell him that you don't like being spoiled so much, that you appreciate the gesture but you'd rather not be spoiled. I mean, it IS a new relationship. He's going to be mushy and want to do all that shit, but it WILL die. Expecially if you ask him not to do it. But then again, you might see in even a clearer light that it wasn't met to be.
I know you crossed out the advice thing. But I really just think you should talk to him before you accidentally throw away something good, ya know?? I've just heard too many times, (not from you) "I shouldn't have let him go." about good guys. He sounds like a good guy.
He's rushing into it. He's moving too fast, let. Him. Know. :)
Haha, why yes, a good majority of them ARE inface complete morons. I mean, really. If you're not happy, you're not happy. I mean, 3 out of the 4 reasons you're not happy about can change. WILL CHANGE. Haha. I mean, Bryce and I started out the same way. Then, I paid for, well, EVERYTHING. Expecially after the "honeymoon stage". Have you told him in a way like, "Oh, don't do that. I don't like being spoiled!" Or, did you sit him down and be like, "Really. I don't like having things being done for me so much." I mean, if you're out and he offers to pay for something, DEAR GOD LET HIM SPEND IT WOMAN. Haha. It's nice.
Tell him "I like you, but I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. We've just started dating, and I don't think that this is the right time to make long-term plans. Let's get through the honeymoon period first, and then talk about making plans. I don't want to run away, but I feel like this is getting too serious too soon."
And Kate, you're a hard worker. You're persistent, and you're independent, and that really is amazing, and it's probably one of things he really likes about you. But let him spoil you, because you deserve it. This guy thinks you deserve it, and it sounds like he likes you, and NOT just having sex with you. If you say you're hungry or thirsty, and he offers to take you out, let him.
But if he buys you something over the top, like a diamond ring (or any expensive jewelry in general) tell him you can't accept it, that it makes you feel uncomfortable, and to try again later. Let him know you're dating him for him, not to be taken out and showered with gifts. But honestly, if he tells you he was out earlier
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So you crossed that out, but in case you were still looking for advice, I don't think there's any shame in breaking up with somebody for the reasons you put forth. If you're just not right for each other, that's a totally legit excuse to break up with someone. If you just want to be friends I'd say it's better to break up with him and risk the possibility that he will feel too rejected to be friends than keep on having the relationship when you don't want it. I feel like sometimes you just know when someone isn't the right one, even if he sounds like a perfect boyfriend. That's just my two cents.
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I mean, you are giving the guy a chance, but does he know that he's getting this chance??
Because honestly, if you get rid of a guy like that, you might just end up with more "Ryans".
Instead of trying to run away from him, talk to him. Tell him that you don't like being spoiled so much, that you appreciate the gesture but you'd rather not be spoiled.
I mean, it IS a new relationship. He's going to be mushy and want to do all that shit, but it WILL die. Expecially if you ask him not to do it.
But then again, you might see in even a clearer light that it wasn't met to be.
I know you crossed out the advice thing. But I really just think you should talk to him before you accidentally throw away something good, ya know?? I've just heard too many times, (not from you) "I shouldn't have let him go." about good guys. He sounds like a good guy.
He's rushing into it. He's moving too fast, let. Him. Know.
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I mean, really. If you're not happy, you're not happy. I mean, 3 out of the 4 reasons you're not happy about can change. WILL CHANGE. Haha.
I mean, Bryce and I started out the same way. Then, I paid for, well, EVERYTHING. Expecially after the "honeymoon stage".
Have you told him in a way like, "Oh, don't do that. I don't like being spoiled!"
Or, did you sit him down and be like, "Really. I don't like having things being done for me so much." I mean, if you're out and he offers to pay for something, DEAR GOD LET HIM SPEND IT WOMAN. Haha. It's nice.
Wondering, how long HAVE you been dating??
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Tell him "I like you, but I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. We've just started dating, and I don't think that this is the right time to make long-term plans. Let's get through the honeymoon period first, and then talk about making plans. I don't want to run away, but I feel like this is getting too serious too soon."
And Kate, you're a hard worker. You're persistent, and you're independent, and that really is amazing, and it's probably one of things he really likes about you. But let him spoil you, because you deserve it. This guy thinks you deserve it, and it sounds like he likes you, and NOT just having sex with you. If you say you're hungry or thirsty, and he offers to take you out, let him.
But if he buys you something over the top, like a diamond ring (or any expensive jewelry in general) tell him you can't accept it, that it makes you feel uncomfortable, and to try again later. Let him know you're dating him for him, not to be taken out and showered with gifts. But honestly, if he tells you he was out earlier ( ... )
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