Grief

[babasyzygy]

(I haven't written something like this in a long while. I try to limit my completely self-absorbed Livejournal postings to no more than one a year - this is that one. It's more an attempt to process than anything else, some expression to help lead me to where I am trying so hard not to go.

Sorry. Grieving is kind of a self-centered process.)

Comments

[mathhobbit]

*hug*

>>;<<

[babasyzygy]

Thank you, Heidi. *Hug*!

[tsarren]

Now, I also worry about whether my excuse for a coping mechanism is going to alienate the people around me.

It's not super-rational, but it's what I've got.

I think your coping mechanism is just fine. It doesn't have to be rational to work for you. And every once and awhile it won't work for someone else, and that someone else may be close to you, for various values of 'close'. We're not perfect. We can't be all things to all people. We can't control what goes on in other people's heads.

I suppose it's a kind of disassociation.

To give a little something to the left side of your brain, yeah, it's a kind of disassociation. And I know from direct experience (the NLP stuff I mentioned) that it can be an incredibly powerful tool for processing stuff. Not sure what cognitive psych says about it, but that's not really my field of study.

*hugs*

[babasyzygy]

Thanks, Kat.

*Hugs* back to you.

[whitebird]

I'm very sorry you lost such a good friend. :/

[babasyzygy]

Thank you, I appreciate that.

[lizarde]

I remember thinking it was kind of appalling that Becca's ex "wasted" some Chimay on Bear. But when I heard he was gone, I thought "who better, really"?

Who better indeed. Bear deserved that Chimay. He was a great doggie.

[babasyzygy]

You know it. He got more joy per ounce out of a good beer than any human I've ever met.

When we bury his ashes, we'll be pouring a good beer over the grave. Chimay would be appropriate.