OK I have tried to stay quiet and neutral for most of this, but I just really needed to say this. You constantly talk about how mature you are, yet your actions never show maturity. It takes a lot more then walking around claiming you're mature to actually be mature. Repeating something doesn't make it true, it just makes the word or phrase annoying as hell
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Speaking in general terms, if you think a simple apology can end a situation like this, you're wrong. The more this builds up, the more it becomes a power issue. Right now, the apology would affirm your righteousness, and thereby making you the winner. If there's a power struggle involved, the friendship could never be reestablished on level ground. Only a spineless, pathetic individual would want to establish good terms with her friends by sacrificing her own integrity.
Even if Dara is forgiven, or something like that, no one involved would really be able to forget "that one time she made us mad, and we punished her until she apologized." That's not a real friendship, it's like conquering someone.
I'm not saying it will make things all better. There probably isn't anything that'll make everyone all happy and love each other again and be the best of friends. I'm saying that an apology and admission of doing something wrong will make everyone stop talking about it.
Also, for people such as Stina and Meaghan, the issue we've been discussing isn't the absolute only thing that has bothered them in all the years of their friendship, but that's the one that they want an apology for. The friendships that have been ruined are definetely not salvageable, but an apology would most likely take the animosity away and lay the specific issue to rest.
Do you think it's worth it? Saying sorry just to make other people happy? No one in their right mind would cater to other people's pride by saying something like that, especially if they don't mean it.
If Stina and Meaghan were in pain for those years they were with Dara, they should've said so 6 years ago and stopped spending tim with her. And since the friendship is really not salvagable, they should just ignore Dara and stop demanding for something that's not really theirs to ask for.
An apology is freely given, not forcibly produced.
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Even if Dara is forgiven, or something like that, no one involved would really be able to forget "that one time she made us mad, and we punished her until she apologized." That's not a real friendship, it's like conquering someone.
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Also, for people such as Stina and Meaghan, the issue we've been discussing isn't the absolute only thing that has bothered them in all the years of their friendship, but that's the one that they want an apology for. The friendships that have been ruined are definetely not salvageable, but an apology would most likely take the animosity away and lay the specific issue to rest.
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If Stina and Meaghan were in pain for those years they were with Dara, they should've said so 6 years ago and stopped spending tim with her. And since the friendship is really not salvagable, they should just ignore Dara and stop demanding for something that's not really theirs to ask for.
An apology is freely given, not forcibly produced.
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Sorry about that!
I can send it to you via aim? :)
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no problem tho.
and sure, my sn is medicatedxlives.
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