Splitses....

[baldsug]

As of yesterday, I now need two hands to count the number of married couples I know who have recently separated or are going through divorce. I know this is my outside bachelor view, and I don't want to trivialize any genune problems in the marriages, but almost all of them seem to be a result of one partner's dissatisfaction, not with the other

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[muse0fire]

Must be because of gay marriage. (I'm kidding - I blame Bush, too.)

almost all of them seem to be a result of one partner's dissatisfaction, not with the other partner, but with their own lives.

That's what happened with us - I feel fortunate that he was able to realize that I wasn't the problem, and that he decided to face the troubles of life alongside me, instead of separately. But it does seem so common now - it's more of a surprise to me when I meet happy couples who have been together forever, then to meet those whose long-term relationships have ended. (And our friends with the most longevity are mostly gay couples, come to think of it.)

Why aren't we all able to just be happy? Are we better off when we're less aware of our options, and the other possibilities of life? Is ignorance bliss? I don't know...

[galbinus_caeli]

I thought everything was Ben Stein's fault.

[lepapillonvert]

Who now?

Food for thought.

[baldsug]

Old friend from new york makes #6. Others are people you may know but it's not mine to tell.

Nuh uh!

[lepapillonvert]

I am NOT getting divorced!

Of course that probably has a lot to do with the fact that I'm not married.

Sorry, child of divorce, had to make light to lessen the pain and all.

Kizz

Re: Nuh uh!

[baldsug]

74% of all secret imaginary marriages end in divorce. The other 26% usually end in a bloody space battle or fighting pirates.

Blame the Bush

[darnlucky]

It's definitely George Bush's fault. The only reason I'm still married to Basil is because all my music is on his computer and I haven't figured out how to synch my iPod to his library. Otherwise George has torn us apart. Well, until yesterday when we got that big fat check in the mail from him, which we spent on booze and giant bags of pot. After all the booze and pot, we remembered why we liked each other.

Re: Blame the Bush

[baldsug]

That sounds like stimulus to me

[bodhipuff]

Not having gone through a legal divorce but rather something approximating that, I have to say that the problem that comes up is that when you are in a long term relationship is that it becomes really difficult to separate out that unhappiness. Is it really with yourself or with the other person? Because living with people affects so much of who we become. So even if you say they are unhappy with themselves, it still may be because of who they have become by being with their partner. And if one person wants to change things, and the other person doesn't see a problem or doesn't want to change things, then it really makes it difficult.

And yet I still chose to get married... so I guess I'll blame Bush.

[baldsug]

Fighting...the...urge...to....make...crude jokes...at..your...expense.....

Losing...consciousness....

Quick!...please add "George" to that last sentence, before I let'em fly....