therealljidol Season 9 week 6-Step on a Crack

[baxaphobia]

“Step on a crack…Break your mama’s back

Comments

[catwomon]

I'm sorry this whole situation is so difficult for you. I was fortunate with both of my parents in this. My father lived to be 84, but he never really needed more assistance than those around him could give. This time in an adult child's life is just damn tough. Are you an only child?

[baxaphobia]

Hi. No I'm not an only child. I have a sister who lives on the west coast. But she has not come home to give any relief even though she does not work and has no real family obligations (a husband who is controlling but that's not an excuse iMO). So it's been left up to me and my mother's husband's daughter who has backed off quite a bit. Ugh. So it's not been fun.

[shanns_ljidol]

I hope at some point your mother realizes that she needs the help and that she realizes it before something permanent happens to her that will force her hand.

Thank you for sharing this.

[baxaphobia]

Thanks. I can hope but sadly I don't think this will happen. Sigh

[karmasoup]

Oh, hon, I feel for you, here. You’re doing the best you can, and, you’re right, learning a lesson from the experience of others that you can apply later in life, too. I suppose if that’s the best bright side you can make out of it, then good for you for finding it. I hope in the midst of all her stubbornness and frustration, she can feel your love and support. And, if not, it’s not because you haven’t tried.

[baxaphobia]

i think my mother's need for control clouds any other feelings. It's sad but true. Thanks for your kind words as always! Hugs!

[itsjustc]

It's hard when people refuse to be helped and you have to watch them get worse.

[baxaphobia]

It certainly is. Thanks for your comment!

[whipchick]

I went through some similar stuff, on a smaller scale, with my dad. I'm always mystified at how some older people refuse to care for themselves, but I guess they're really scared about their independence. Good luck as you navigate this situation!

[baxaphobia]

If it is fear that is motivating my mother to do the things she does then it's creating less independence than more for her. But I have to protect my own emotional health so I keep a very strong wall up. Thanks so much for reading! Hugs!