therealljidol Season 10-week 18: Location Location Location

[baxaphobia]

This is my entry for week 18 of therealljidol We had to choose partners in this week's competition. I had the pleasure of working with alycewilson. It was an honor!
Her entry can be found hereOn December 9, 2015 I received the call from the attending physician in the critical care unit of the hospital telling me that my mother had passed away peacefully. I knew this was

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[rhodielady_47]

I understand your sense of relief. I felt that same relief once my mother had died and was buried.
{{{Hugs}}}
Good writing!
:^}

[baxaphobia]

It's good that others understand how I felt. It was quite the time and the house thing nearly broke me fromt he stress of it all! Thanks for your comment!

[rhodielady_47]

You couldn't have said it better. Everyone is more than willing to criticize HOW you do something but damned few are willing to actually HELP you do it.
I hate it when people stand around joggling my elbow like that.
I really do.
:^|

[halfshellvenus]

Gosh, the logistics of dealing with funeral arrangements and estate processing are so daunting. It's too bad your mother wasn't willing to help defray some of the estate expenses and issues by starting on that earlier, though her deep-seated (and unkind) emotional reactions make it clear that the house represented far more than just a physical place.

In a sense, it was a representation of her life. Admitting that she wouldn't be returning to that full state of independence again might have been more than she could tolerate.

[baxaphobia]

As I said, the whole house thing was worse than the actual funeral plans. I don't know why my mother clung so tightly to the house. It always was like that but there must have been some psychological reason for it. I'll never know as she was not one to share much emotion except for anger. Thanks so much for your comment!

[i_17bingo]

I don't have an attachment to a home quite like that (I moved around a lot when I was a kid, so I didn't own anything for long), but I can understand the difficulty attached to it. I remember when my grandmother sold her house, and how I would never again be able to experience the history attached to it.

And I understand how it must have felt for you when it was gone.

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[baxaphobia]

There was so much stress around the house and everything involved that i really grew to hate the thing and was so happy when I could turn everything over to the attorney and be done with it! Sigh.
Thanks so much for reading and your comment!

[adoptedwriter]

That's how it was with my in-laws' house too. Hugs...It's still a hard job though.

[baxaphobia]

Guess I'm not alone! Smile. Thanks for reading!

[rayaso]

I am sorry to hear about your mother and all the stress from dealing with the house. I can understand her reluctance to sell it. It represented so much to her, and after spending 80 years in it, there was so much tied up in it emotionally that it was an extension of her. Also, at that age, she may not have fully understood the problems she would cause by not dealing with it while alive, since the nursing home got all the profit, which may have been avoidable.

[baxaphobia]

It was difficult indeed. she had a fear that someone would take her possessions away which was far from the truth. We wated to protect her assets but no matter what we did she couldn't wrap her head around it. And eventually she was in no condition to make any decisions what soever which made it even more difficult. It was stressful all the way around. But the chapter is over and hopefully someone else is enjoying the house.