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[bcegda]

17. What song was stuck in your head recently, and what were you doing at the time that made you think of it?

i actually recently wrote about this here https://43tags.livejournal.com/139900.html

18. Describe 5 things you want to see or do before it’s too late.

1) live in this specific house (even if it's just as a guest for a couple weeks).  For

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[gottawonder]

Interesting post! I relate to what you are saying about fear. I think that most of what people think of as fear is just grinding anxiety. Worrying about stuff, as you say, like dandelions and shoe choices and what kind of ice cream to buy. Most people don't really have a lot of actual fear in their lives, which is good, but I think it also leads to being "afraid" of smaller and smaller things.

[bcegda]

i think this is very true, and it can be really weirdly debilitating

i also think that's why they interview ppl who've lived thru the war in WWII in Europe and look back on those years with acute nostalgia and 'those were the best days of our lives .. we were so alive, etc' I know i saw that somewhere but don't remember now

[gottawonder]

I think a lot of people involved in the war effort (like the people at home, working towards supplying soldiers and so on) probably felt a great sense of purpose, and of being part of a community that put aside their differences to work towards a common goal. People really come together in times like that, in ways they don't when things are going well. I'm not sure if all soldiers felt great about the actual battles and so on, but again, there were likely times of great comraderie

[bcegda]

i also thiink about Holocaust survivors and how so many of them lived to be over 90 - if you can survive that, you can survive anything

i agree with you 100% re last point - i try to challenge myself in small ways all the time when i find myself getting too 'comfortable' - even things like making uncomfortable phone calls. It's for the best

[seasidebee]

Landmark still exists????? I had friends try to entice me to join that 20 plus years ago.

[bcegda]

he didn't join because expensive cult but went because i forget why, actually , something to do with an old GF or co-workers - but apparenlty there's still stuff about it he likes

don't throw the baby out with the bath, i say

[seasidebee]

I'd not thought about it in years til you mentioned it above. You prompted me to write about it in my journal. It wasn't my scene, but clearly my friends got something out of it.

[bcegda]

did they take it too far? it's when ppl take it too far that it beomes silly

[rosewilderlane]

Your answer to number 19 made me both laugh and cheer.

[bcegda]

:D it's my favorite one!

[ongranitecliffs]

"sure i coulda been more sociable kind confident kept up appearances more taken Ritalin instead of bombing school had a lobotomy drank less volunteered more found Jesus sucked up to (or sucked off) rich people more dealt with my hostile attribution bias in therapy saved my pennies gotten a nose job stopped cussing stayed in school read more Bridezilla less more drugs fewer drugs more writing less writing kept a schedule said NO more said YES more acted more analyzed less kept better house kept less clutter did yoga daily learned programming back in the 90s stayed in graphic design stayed at that one job or if not that job at least that other job kept my options open made a decision sooner been more principled been less idealistic marketed myself more marketed myself less cut up the credit cards travelled less travelled more learned to budget or live off Ramen practiced every day because that's how you get to Carnegie Hall"

Most hilarious and completely true paragraph I've read in a while! 🤣 You are great.

[bcegda]

thank you thank you i'll be here all week....