The Hand I Was Dealt

[bhanson]

Well, thanks for being patient with me not updating. I went home for the weekend to be with Lauren and her family. It's really what I needed. Santa Rosa is a completely wonderful place and it's always a pleasure to be home. Now I'm sitting in Oakland Airport with an hour to spare before my flight leaves and I figured I'd update my journal

Comments

[britshmit]

I'm going to miss you terribly if you move back home to California but in life there's only one thing everyone is searching for and that's happiness. You've got to find the thing that makes you happy and if that's being home then I fully support you. Everyone's dreams change and take new forms, which is fine. There's nothing wrong in not finding what you want here and you don't want to put your happiness on hold. I'll miss knowing you're here if you decide to move but I definitely support whatever you choose.

[toreilly]

I don't feel it's in my place to offer advice, but I will commiserate on one front:

It has been my experience that (brace for broad generalization) New Yorkers think themselves "a cut above" the rest of us. I've noticed this in my dealings with them in Boston and indeed during my time there in 2001. There is a sense of elitism that rubs me the wrong way, and though I know it is not true for every New Yorker (hence the broad generalization disclaimer), that is something I've found. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's not just the weather that's cold in New York.

Feel free to rip me, folks. Do your worst. :)

-T

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[deejay101]

If you hadn't put the GLITTERING GENERALITY disclaimer, I would have had some nasty words for you, O'Reilly....

However, I can't be too harsh when you know it's a broad generalization. During my month stay here I have found plenty of pleasant people, both New Yorkers and long-time imports. It may rub you the wrong way, but I've definately found my little niche in the Big Apple, and it is void of those who call themselves elite.

In my opinion, Boston was a bit too elitist, so it's an apples and oranges type of deal.

-=-David-=-

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[toreilly]

David,

I, too have noticed that there are people on Beacon Hill who fancy themselves the cream of the crop (and some of them become influential politicans). Many Bostonians are gruff and brash, but the New Yorkers I've encountered consider their town the castle on the cloud, if you will (and even if you won't). I am glad, though, that you picked up on the generalization - I would never conclude that that all New Yorkers act a certain way, because if there is one thing to be said about New Yorkers, they are pretty intent on and proud of their individuality.

Perhaps I've run across the wrong New Yorkers. ;-)

-T

[dottynose]

This is a huge decision in your life. I am all for Happiness because I agree with Brit. It is the one thing that we all search for. But one thing to remember is that there is happiness in overcomnig a situation. In perservering and coming out on top. If you feel you can make the best of your hand, play on. But if you feel like there is no good to come from testing yourself in this way, by all means, fold. We all love you and support any decision you would make.

[anonymous]

Do what's best for YOU.... you know that.

:-(

[deejay101]

I'm so sorry to hear your dilemma. You know I would love for you to stay here, but like Katie and Britt and Anonymous said, you gotta follow your heart, and if you left your heart in San Francisco (gag me with the corny cliche), then follow it there. New York will miss you, and I'll miss you too. Do what you feel is right, and don't feel sorry for it, you have a whole life ahead of you.

-=-David-=-