Dearheart, there are a lot of things to factor in with this new, I realize. As someone who has lost a loved one to cancer and is currently helping a friend through it, please keep in mind these things...
1. Cancer is not a death sentence. There are treatments available for most types and many can become dormant over time. 2. Try to make the most of the NOW. Happiness and laughter are some of the best medcine out there. 3. Be there when you can. Don't feel guilty about when you can't. 4. Tell your mom every day how much you love her. 5. Hang in there for the long haul.
I'm just worried because she had breast cancer about 15 years ago. I don't know what to think.
They asked me to go out to dinner with them last night after we all found out, but I didn't go. I had already eaten, and I didn't really want to do anything but stay home and cry. I do feel bad for that.
Last time my mom told us that she didn't think she was going to pull through-and the only thing that was driving her was the fact that she had 6 kids at home who needed her. My youngest brother is leaving home now and I know that she is already feeling like no one needs her anymore. What is going to help her through this time?
I totally get you sweetie- it's a tough situation. And when my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, I had a good long cry about it too. Sometimes it's important to get past how this affects you first- by crying, having a time out, some quality time alone- whatever gets you through.
Even though you're not at home any more, your mom still has plenty to live for, and maybe she needs a reminder of that. That's why it's important to just be there sometimes. As a reminder of what there is to hope for - if not her future, then yours with her in it.
We just found out that it's NOT in her organs. Which is a very good thing, but they also said there's not much they can do other than try to battle it off for a while, but ultimately, nothing can be done.
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your mom's such a sweet lady.
i'm so sorry....
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1. Cancer is not a death sentence. There are treatments available for most types and many can become dormant over time.
2. Try to make the most of the NOW. Happiness and laughter are some of the best medcine out there.
3. Be there when you can. Don't feel guilty about when you can't.
4. Tell your mom every day how much you love her.
5. Hang in there for the long haul.
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They asked me to go out to dinner with them last night after we all found out, but I didn't go. I had already eaten, and I didn't really want to do anything but stay home and cry. I do feel bad for that.
Last time my mom told us that she didn't think she was going to pull through-and the only thing that was driving her was the fact that she had 6 kids at home who needed her. My youngest brother is leaving home now and I know that she is already feeling like no one needs her anymore. What is going to help her through this time?
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I totally get you sweetie- it's a tough situation. And when my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, I had a good long cry about it too. Sometimes it's important to get past how this affects you first- by crying, having a time out, some quality time alone- whatever gets you through.
Even though you're not at home any more, your mom still has plenty to live for, and maybe she needs a reminder of that. That's why it's important to just be there sometimes. As a reminder of what there is to hope for - if not her future, then yours with her in it.
*I am hugging you right now*
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