I'm so sorry, chica. :( you know this is not your fault. there is just no way to know when or if a person is going to commit suicide. knowing a person is feeling down is not the same as knowing he is going to kill himself. two very different things.
if you want support at the funeral, just let me know.
You know that this is not your fault in any way, shape or form, right? I mean, obviously he must have been deeply depressed, but you can't blame yourself for not knowing that he was going to kill himself last night. If anyone had known, of course they would have tried to stop him. It's really sad that he didn't reach out to his friends or a doctor or even a stranger before he did this terrible, terrible thing.
It's really sad that he didn't reach out to his friends or a doctor or even a stranger before
That's the double-edged sword of depression. You're not rational. You convince yourself that you are a burden that your friends are better off without - or worse, you convince yourself that no one will miss you anyway, and you have no real friends.
I know this.
It is my fault. It is all of our faults; all of his friends who suffer from depression and know that severely depressed people do not reach out for help.
Although I realize blaming myself or others won't change anything. And that it is possible that even if I'd been there I couldn't have saved him.
I didn't know him at all, but "any man's death diminishes me", etc., especially when it happens this way.
People always say, "Oh, if only he'd reached out for help".
This is Minnesota. People here have a hard time reaching out even if they're not depressed, especially if they need help with anything.
If they're married or in a long-term relationship, that sometimes makes it harder, strangely enough, although married people supposedly live longer and consider themselves to be happier.
I didn't know Ward too well but we hung out several times and I went to a couple of their BBQs. That just sucks. I feel terrible for two kids especially.
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if you want support at the funeral, just let me know.
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I'm very sorry to hear that.
You know that this is not your fault in any way, shape or form, right? I mean, obviously he must have been deeply depressed, but you can't blame yourself for not knowing that he was going to kill himself last night. If anyone had known, of course they would have tried to stop him. It's really sad that he didn't reach out to his friends or a doctor or even a stranger before he did this terrible, terrible thing.
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It's really sad that he didn't reach out to his friends or a doctor or even a stranger before
That's the double-edged sword of depression. You're not rational. You convince yourself that you are a burden that your friends are better off without - or worse, you convince yourself that no one will miss you anyway, and you have no real friends.
I know this.
It is my fault. It is all of our faults; all of his friends who suffer from depression and know that severely depressed people do not reach out for help.
Although I realize blaming myself or others won't change anything. And that it is possible that even if I'd been there I couldn't have saved him.
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People always say, "Oh, if only he'd reached out for help".
This is Minnesota. People here have a hard time reaching out even if they're not depressed, especially if they need help with anything.
If they're married or in a long-term relationship, that sometimes makes it harder, strangely enough, although married people supposedly live longer and consider themselves to be happier.
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I hope he finds peace on the other side.
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No kidding.
I hope he finds peace on the other side.
Me too.
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