Seriously though, that's good that you can realize this about yourself and that you're at peace with who you really are, inside and out. Although it is somewhat disheartening how the relationships we have with family members, no matter how much we love them and how *traditional* you're upbringing, can really screw up who we are and haunt us throughout our adult lives. (Yeah, yeah, that was a horrible sentence, but I'm not going all grammar-police on it!) It's always those little things not meant for us to hear that can really sting and make a difference. Comes from personal experience, that's all.
Thanks for sharing this, Tom. Your honesty in telling this shows what a strong, good person you are. I can relate to the whole sibling rivalry deal, and for years was tormented by a comment my father made. Now that you've realized that you have changed you don't need to dwell on that comment you overheard anymore, because it's not valid. Your metamorphosis physically and emotionally is a wonderful thing, and you should be so proud of what you have accomplished.
i know this is the generic response but i think it's jealousy. i don't know how big she is (and congrats to you btw! i had no idea you'd lost that much weight. how did you do it? i'm just curious)... but sometimes when siblings start dating it can get weird. it's like, here's another person our age, and my same sex, who he can relate to better than me. my bro and i aren't particularly close but i felt that when he got engaged. and i have a serious bf! it's not like i'm in love with my brother... it just can be hard to take. a natural sibling rivalry thing.
Hey Tom ... this is going to sound all corny, so prepare yourself ... I'm really glad you started paying attention to your *inside* as well as your *outside*. Seeing the transformation in you over the past year revives my hope in the opposite sex ... and reading your posts about how happy you are right now puts a huge-ole-grin on my face. :)
It must have hurt pretty bad to overhear your mom say that to your sister.
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Seriously though, that's good that you can realize this about yourself and that you're at peace with who you really are, inside and out. Although it is somewhat disheartening how the relationships we have with family members, no matter how much we love them and how *traditional* you're upbringing, can really screw up who we are and haunt us throughout our adult lives. (Yeah, yeah, that was a horrible sentence, but I'm not going all grammar-police on it!) It's always those little things not meant for us to hear that can really sting and make a difference. Comes from personal experience, that's all.
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It must have hurt pretty bad to overhear your mom say that to your sister.
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