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bushwalker

Sorting: It’s A Small World Except When You Have To Clean It

May 26, 2006 22:18

Apologies for being so aloof as of late. I’m 31 pregnant weeks ATM and insanity is obviously taking over. I am beset with a case of Extreme Nesting and have decided it is time to move home… me being heavily pregnant and all it is just such a convenient time to contemplate major upheaval don’t you think? So our house is up for sale and I am ( Read more... )

moving house, domesticity, consumerism

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nausicaa1 May 26 2006, 17:59:03 UTC

Preach it, sister! This whole "unsung hero" housewife gig sucks. I'm a pretty intelligent, creative, thoughtful, observant person and this non-job takes everything I have and then some to get through the day. It makes me crazy when people shut off when you say "oh, I stay home with the kids" when they ask me what I do. It's a sucky, thankless job, honestly, but I'm a much better this than I would be anything else if I were worrying about who was watching my kids while I worked at a paying job.

bushwalker May 27 2006, 16:42:42 UTC

Exactly! It is not about how I feel in the job most of the time or the value I know I give to my children in being there through their early years but about that public perception and even with the odd PC person who corrects you and says "Oh but it's not just staying at home!.." it is not as if we are offerred coffee breaks, holidays, long service leave, superannuation, etc.. in recognition of our labours. It is a job that requires far more sacrifice for far more noble motivations and yet we are so incredibly undervalued. Then what is this thing where'd you're far more commonly judged on how you keep house than how you raise your kids - though any external judgement can seem patronising in it's ignorance. Or when you talk about your stuff it comes off as so trivial and petty by being so small. But it's anything but when there's a session of mother blaming going on. There is such a sense of the world watching by to judge from the sidelines without offering anything by way of genuine support and involvement ( ... )

klclutte May 29 2006, 10:00:28 UTC

"The fact that we consciously choose this because it is so very important just makes it more exasperating." Too true! It can sometimes seem to others as if a SAHM has opted for the easy option in life, switch off your brain and sit around singing nursery rhymes all day :P

Being a stay at home mum is the most exhausting, frustrating, joyful, rewarding experience I have ever had. I have never before worked 24/7 at anything - no workplace would expect that.

All the best with the house-selling and -hunting. How is the pregnancy going, aside from the nestingness?

*dashes off the rescue crawling boy before he bumps his head into another wall*

bushwalker May 29 2006, 17:31:53 UTC

Pregnancy is going OK although the last time I went to the doctor my blood pressure jumped up a bit. I don't have any other related symptoms of pre eclampsia but I will be crossing my fingers the next time I visit the doctor (this Friday) that my blood pressure is its normal happy self again. But of course I so am over this whole pregnancy thing; the three point turn required to roll over when sleeping, feeling like I have a poker shoved up my bum and so squashed within my own skin, the regurgitation of the same few clothes, the fatigue, etc..

Zac sounds like he's keeping you busy. But babies are so cute when they crawling! I love that stage despite the ravages of wear and tear on their pants.

kafechick May 31 2006, 22:38:30 UTC

My God girl - I had not idea you and B were on the move!

I have been sick .. and working hard (probably why I got sick) .. haven't looked at this for weeks!

bushwalker June 1 2006, 00:55:03 UTC

Are you back already or still on holiday OS?

kafechick June 1 2006, 01:05:50 UTC

Didn't quite make O'seas .. longer explanation on my LJ.

giddyfeet June 25 2006, 23:40:48 UTC

Hey its Claire (who you met through Z last year) and I was randomly surfing your site and saw that you are pregnant! CONGRATS! Z and Jill were secretive! Heh! OMG wow! Mind if I add you at giddyfeet?

bushwalker July 24 2006, 04:12:28 UTC

Hello - sorry I am so late in responding but it's been pretty full on here at the moment. The baby is due in 2 days and will probably be out later this week. Add away.

giddyfeet July 26 2006, 15:08:02 UTC

Any news yet? I've added you! :) Good luck if you are still pregnant! :)

bushwalker July 26 2006, 23:03:05 UTC

Low level pre labour stuff. My body takes ages in the lead up. I was thinking it might come this weekend but now I think I am revising the idea of being induced. If I am induced, that will happen next Thursday so it's then if nothing happens sooner. Who knows?