The Doctor is IN.

[but_fearitself]

Hey, y'all, long time no see, and I do apologize about that-- I been busier than a fucking one-legged man in an asskicking contest, like y'all don't even know-- Halloween and all that, which I'll tell y'all all about a little later, and some private business of mine that I very well may never talk about because it involved riding around with a

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[creepymcgee]

I got a problem I REALLY need your help with doc.
Something serious
Something I need professional help with.
I got the worst case of jock itch EVER

[unpaidpiper]

Why is everything about being itchy with you?

[but_fearitself]

AUGH.

TRIAMCINOLONE.

AND TRY NOT TO TALK ABOUT IT IN POLITE COMPANY; DAMN, SON

[mellifluous_ink]

'In the face of a potentially mounting mental crisis, I just want to let all y'all know that Doctor Crane is here to help. Need some advice, some intimate--No Homo-- counsel, a prescription, or just someone to listen? Post here and I'll do whatever I can to help, or send me a message and we'll schedule an appointment.'

(fans himself) Lord have mercy, Doctor Crane!

For someone who identifies as completely asexual, you sure are sexy.

[but_fearitself]

WHAT THE HELL, SON.

Dammit, boy, I'm a doctor and thems doctorly words-- how in God's name are you finding that sexually attractive?

[mellifluous_ink]

Do you really want me to answer this?

[mellifluous_ink]

On a more serious note--how okay are you with transgender stuff?

I ask because gender and sex are not the same thing, and... well, all the therapists I have ever been to have just bossed me around about 'you need to stop dressing in your girlfriend's clothes and cut your hair and act more butch' and I am like, 'bitch you wouldn't tell this to a natal boy stfu' and even when I use Joker as a reference for 'Um hello boys are allowed to wear heels/pretty colours and still be boys', they don't listen and I need a therapist according to the Powers That Be because otherwise I'm not 'allowed' to get surgery. I swear, I wouldn't be surprised if this whole ordeal gave me some sort of goddamned complex....

I mean, seriously. Wtf. Clearly this means I need a therapist more like you, since the 'normal' people are all closed-minded little bitches.

(sigh) Damn it. I mean, damnit.

[mellifluous_ink]

H'm... probably should have PMed this. Oh well.

[theboiwonder]

This doesn't surprise me given the continued inequality between genders in regards to clothing. Women should be able to wear whatever they want without being labeled, as should men. I think it's an injustice that people can't just wear whatever they feel like wearing, regardless of gender or anything else.

I know you didn't ask me and probably don't care about my opinion on the matter, but oh well.

[mellifluous_ink]

And boys should be allowed to wear bright colours without being called gay.

*shakes head* Honestly the whole thing about 'wear what you want' only serves to make my life harder, since it means I don't 'pass' as male no matter what I wear. If boys were allowed to wear as wide a range of clothing as girls, it would be better. But really? I think we need to examine gender. Even the words we use to describe the genders we prefer are inherently polar.

I mean, 'same' or 'opposite', seriously? What about my spouse, who's an androgyne? What about drag queens? What about birls? What about genderqueer people? What does 'same' mean? Does that mean you only like people with your same parts? Definte same parts? I mean it's all very stupid. There are like seventy billion genders.

[loar5]

Oh man, I've got so many things

Ehh, I'm ftm transgendered- I think? I'm not certain at all, which is really bothering me. And I've got some extreme phobia of vaginas, which I might be confusing for gender identity issues- but then again, I like being treated as a male and I think it fits me, and I really hate my body now

Also, I'm incredibly shy- I mean, I'm scared to go up to the cashier because I don't want to embarrass myself. And I barely post on the internet for the same reason (except now, but I bet I'm gonna regret this later). I'm getting a bit better, but seriously, it's still ridiculous. I've got incredibly low self-esteem (which I don't really mind, but everybody else says it's a problem!). And I'm really interested in bdsm, but I think I might be more interested in 'abusive' than 'bdsm', which is a little worrisome

hmmm, maybe I should've talked to you more than once before telling you my life story .-.

[mellifluous_ink]

I would definitely agree that you should work out and work past the phobia and body-hate before deciding it's a gender issue. Even if one is trans, it is still completely possible to love one's body. Gender doesn't have anything to do with how you look--not enough for it to 'fix' your body-image issues if you change gender.

Low self-esteem is a problem because it means you think you are of low worth and that you do not respect yourself. And not respecting yourself is probably the most unhealthy thing in the world. It makes sense that, being of low self-esteem, you would be interested in abusive partners. Possibly you think you are a 'fuck up' or something similar, and need to be punished for perceived wrongdoing that no one is punishing you for. To this end, I would strongly suggest you do not look for a partner until you love yoruself. If you don't, you are going to just compound your issues and possibly get yourself permanently scarred, whether physically or mentally.

I'm speaking from experience, here, on all counts.

[loar5]

That's actually the most insightful advice I've ever gotten! Thank you! :D

It sounds stupid, but I still don't see the problem with my having low self-esteem... I mean, it's basically my defining character trait. ^^; And it makes me want to improve! But if it led to all my other things, then I guess I'll start trying to get better. .__.
Urgh, I don't even know how to start working on body-image and all that.

Thank you again! I know I don't have it that bad, but it's still nice to rant, and even nicer to have people actually listen :)

[mellifluous_ink]

Let me put it this way: when you don't respect someone, do you want to take care of them? Low self-esteem is not a 'defining character trait', it is a natural problem encountered by most people at some point in their lives, when they are learning that they are individuals. It's a response to the newness of realising one is an individual, and the fear that comes with venturing out of the nest and trying to find a place to fit in larger human society

[mr_nygma]

To bro, or not to bro?

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