Aural sex and cunning linguists

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Heh, I know it's mean to laugh at your buddy's marital woes (especially if they're of the bedroom variety), but when recently-wed Kevin (Kev) lamented about his sad state of aural sex to Mike and me during a boys night out, we choked on our beer which came right back out through our nostrils! Uh-huh, that's aural sex (or the lack of it!) as in

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[sweetching]

Why must guys hear us ladies during it ?? Is it such a turn on ?

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Truthfully? Yes! Coz males are sensory creatures (visual, aural, etc) and it gives us feedback on how we're performing, whether she's enjoying it, what she likes about our body, how she'd like us to please her ... think of it as another form of communication besides physical stuff like touching, hugging, kissing, etc. The more the couple communicates, the more fulfiling love-making will be methiinks.

Erm, talking dirty doesn't necessarily mean using swear words and vulgarities lah. That's not it. :)

[sweetching]

hahahaha .. does that include, "Ouch, you are hurting me!! Ouch!! You're pulling at my hair!!! Ewww... you stink!!!" ???

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Hoy, we do not "stink"! That's "nan ren wei" mah. Heh, the gal could suggest making out in the shower or long-bath. That way it's fun, naughty ... and he gets a bath too. ;)

[aidan80]

I guess u at least fare better than ur poor pal?

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Re-SOUND-ingly so, luckily! LOL! But I'm confident Mrs Kev's vocal chords will fire up in time lah ... not to mention her expanding vocab, no thanks to my buddy of coz. ;)

[coern]

yo!

haha! what a good read & excellent advice! *grin*

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Yeah, us guys can certainly relate to the significance of aural sex huh? Erm, it's the womenfolk (some, not all) who may need a bit of warming up to the idea. Heh!

[inex]

speaking from a (very) personal POV, women actually have the ability to orgasm so quietly no one around her can remotely tell. Only tell tale signs are probably a flushed face and chest (esp chest! looks very pink coz of the adrenaline rush)

yeah I know it for a fact. ;P

HOWEVER that is due to suppression of our vocal expression for fear of disturbing the neighbours, colleagues etc

If however, a guy can arouse her to the point she lose control of the suppression of her vocal expression, he must be damn good! (that can happen too and I'm speaking from experience)

the problem with women is its kinda hard to detach our mentality from our orgasms, harder if the woman is not someone who is very sexual in the first place, worse if she has something against sex.

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Not fair leh, there's no way for a guy to hide the Big-O unlike women. Tsk, so hard to read women ... even during sex! Hahaha! Seriously though, guys are sensory creatures so making some noise during orgasm will enhance his sexual pleasure and satisfaction lah. To us, stoney silence could mean we've failed to arouse the woman ... a big blow to our egos and possibly a turn-off too.

Erm, you mean the default for most women is to be not very vocal during sex? Geez, I doubt if guys worry much about disturbing the neighbours. Hmmm, it's interesting ... but I've observed that women tend to shy away from expressing themselves vocally as sexual beings. It's like enjoying sex is dirty? Why ah? Men, on the other hand, are pretty comfortable with sex. The more we enjoy it, the more vocal and physical we become. :)

I don't really understand the part about detaching mentality from orgasm. Erm, do you mean that women are very aware of themselves during sex and it's hard to just let go, be less inhibited, and just enjoy the ride?

[inex]

heheh it has to be communicated to the ladies loh. Personally I don't like to make noise for the sake of livening up the mood, which means.. i don't like faking my moans. ha ha! so uncooperative right? usually i just tell him straight even in the middle of sex that whatever he's doing then is not cutting it for me, so we'll change positions or he do something else to get me off. shit I think I reveal too much already LOL. TMI

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Wah, so informative. I like

[infusionz]

Aural sex indeed. You'll do anything to avoid spam bots won't ya. Hehz... for me, the line between talking dirty and being a tad porno is a blurred one because sometimes that's the whole purpose. *wink* Wahaha.

Imeen.... hmmm looks interesting. I signed up for an account already. Let's see what I can do with it. *looks around for boss*

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What? What? It's aural sex mah. Oral sex would be something totally different. Besides, it's hard to talk (much less be a cunning linguist) with one's mouth full right? Hahaha! Now the spam bots are surely gonna come liao! :)

Finally, someone who's frank enough to admit blurring the lines between dirty talk and porno lite. Hahaha! *^5 infusionz* But cannot dunk a novice like Mrs Kev into the deep end of the pool yet lah. Need to warm up those vocal chords first mah. ;)

Hey, add me to your friends list on imeem k? Will do the same. ;)

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Yah I forgot that you're not as crude as me. I'd have used "Sex Sounds" or "Moaning and Groaning". LOL. There you go. That's like an open invitation for the bots right there. LOL

But I know what it's like to be with a plank. Someone I dated was plank and boy that was absolutely no fun.... Then I got myself a scorpio. Nuff said. =p

Okie dokie. Will do that on imeen.

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Thanks hor, for inviting the spam bots right to my doorsteps!!! *kabish* Heh, I'm only *koff* cultured *koff* on LJ lah. Wait till you meet the gorilla in real life. ;)

Wahlao, you not bad liao. Moved from plank to scorpio in one step. I took a more circuitous route ... went from cold fish (allo' allo', are you still breathing?), to nympho, to Mariah Carey's evil bedroom twin (only the loud wailing part, unfortunately) ... long and scary story.