Relationships

[caje]

So, lately a bunch of friends have related to me their relationship woes. I am seeing a general trend. So I decided I'd post some information that pretty much applies to everyone, and hopefully people take from it what they need.

Comments

[winterknight]

this is incredibly wise. corollary to many of those points: if someone wants you when you are weak, dependent, needy, and out of control, how invested will he be in seeing you become a whole, happy person? the answer is, always, NOT VERY. there is a difference between being supportive and having so little self-esteem or so much need to control that one chases down as a mate someone who is obviously disadvantaged.

[caje]

Indeed. I wish someone had been able to tell me this stuff a long time ago; although in retrospect, I probably would have ignored it :P I'm the kind of person who has to go through the school of hard knocks to really get something.

[tehkate]

It makes sense, it does, but it is not easy.

[caje]

Oh, I never said it was easy. Just that it makes sense ;)

Longest Relationship?

[anonymous]

I would just like to ask, what was your longest relationship?

Re: Longest Relationship?

[caje]

3.5 years