Comments | carriemeaway: G: 04/01/11

carriemeaway

G: 04/01/11

Jan 04, 2011 20:38

New year, new start? Hmmmm, let's see. First thing I'm going to do it to try and R.E.L.A.X! Not to get so stressed about every little detail. I'm not sure HOW i'll do that yet.

Spent the christmas/new years with the in-laws, which was really really stressful. It was too long to be there. The "you eat like a bird" comment came up an awful lot. I ( Read more... )

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scotiareed January 4 2011, 20:47:15 UTC

Being overweight is more "acceptable" than underweight in that no one resents you for it. The disapproval directed at overweight women is plenty hurtful, but the disapproval directed at underweight women can carry that extra venom of bitter jealousy. And when people get emotionally invested in something like that, that's when the knives come out.

Your last couple paragraphs - I know exactly what you mean. "I don't think I really know what I want" could be a motto for the whole disorder.

carriemeaway January 4 2011, 20:49:48 UTC

"Being overweight is more "acceptable" than underweight in that no one resents you for it. The disapproval directed at overweight women is plenty hurtful, but the disapproval directed at underweight women can carry that extra venom of bitter jealousy." GOOD POINT!

scotiareed January 4 2011, 21:29:37 UTC

I think I sometimes treat heavier women especially kindly because you can assume the world's already treating them pretty badly. I go, "oh, clothes shopping must be hell, and probably she feels really self-conscious..." I want to comfort her.

But put a skinny girl in a room with me and my hackles are up. I feel instantly inferior, and redundant, and pointless - HUGELY intimidated, very insecure. So I probably come off a little cold to other girls sometimes, without even meaning to, but just because inside I'm terrified that they're better than I am and that everyone can see it.

carriemeaway January 4 2011, 21:39:16 UTC

I totally understand that - I have a friend who is naturally very skinny and I ALWAYS feel inferior next to her.

I've got to go now (It's 9.40pm here and I've had a long exhausting day!) I'll chat to you tomorrow hopefully xx

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carriemeaway January 5 2011, 21:28:20 UTC

Me too!

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carriemeaway January 7 2011, 14:17:11 UTC

"How would people like it if I responded to their comments but replaced skinny with their body type?" ---> exactly!

Our society sure has a fucked up view of what a healthy weight is!