Comments | catcheshiseye: I'm not a girl, don't tell me what to believe. I'm just trying to find the woman in me....

catcheshiseye

I'm not a girl, don't tell me what to believe. I'm just trying to find the woman in me....

Sep 20, 2007 11:12

GAHD.

Anyway. Things have been nuts. School. Work. Relationships. Clarice. Everything is in warp speed and all I can do is play "Fish Tycoon."

Turns out that my boyf (not The BedMate) is dying of melanoma . Last week, his doctor gave him 3-4 months. We both knew he was sick, but I never thought it was gonna happen all so quickly. His doctor told him ( Read more... )

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korith September 20 2007, 17:41:06 UTC

*hug* I am so glad you are sharing this so you can get support for you as you support boyf.

mandylicious September 20 2007, 18:40:06 UTC

Holy. Wow. That's a whole lot to deal with, homeslice. I wish you strength as you navigate all of that, and I wish comfort and peace for your boyf as he deals with his declining health. I'm here if you need me!

catcheshiseye September 20 2007, 19:58:06 UTC

Awesome. Thanks.

deidhre September 20 2007, 18:51:02 UTC

*HUG*
Have you spoken with Scott? He has done quite a bit of work with death and dying issues and might be able to help you sort some of your fears on what to say and how to act.

How does he seem to be dealing with the news?

catcheshiseye September 20 2007, 21:15:22 UTC

honestly, i am not really speaking with anyone about this... that would require facing it...

*puts head back into sand*

deidhre September 20 2007, 23:54:09 UTC

Love you. HUGS

From experience... loristewart September 21 2007, 22:46:24 UTC

Spend every moment you can with your sick friend right now -- after he is gone, you'll be glad you did. What I wouldn't give for one more day with Kendrick. Knowing that he is dying won't change how much you care for him or how much he cares for you. Nor will it change the things you love to do together - cook, garden and get stoned to your heart's content! Stop worrying about what to say and what his family thinks. Just be who you have always been. And remember, perhaps the greatest gift you can give to him is to allow him to talk to you about his own death. Many in his family will refuse to acknowledge it and he may really need to talk about it ( ... )

Re: From experience... catcheshiseye September 21 2007, 23:02:35 UTC

Thank you *bear hug*

darkneuro September 22 2007, 13:16:58 UTC

Do yourself a HUGE favor... TALK with your friend. Yeah, you say you're not dealing with it, but like you said... All you can worry about is 'Don't tell any death jokes'. TELL HIM. Tell him that you're stressing because you don't know what he wants to hear about or saying the wrong thing or being taken the wrong way. Let him know you're there for him. And frankly, some of the best 'dead' jokes I've heard have come from dying people. He just may surprise you. And I think you'll surprise yourself. *HUGS*