Someday, it'll be all worth it.

[chickengrower]

Very late last night, I received a call. In tears, he told me to not go through the cycle where i ignore him because he has no one to communicate with but me. He knows that I still carry a torch for him, and it makes it hard for both of us. I can't not carry a torch, and he will drawback if I come on too strongly, and when he draws back, I'll

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[socratess]

In a break-up, it's always easy for the party who initiated to want to remain as friends. In short, they want to lessen their guilt and maintain the relationship. To a certain extent, it is rather selfish. For the other party, don't be afraid to say you are not ready to be friends. And I personally do not think that a relationship can become a pure friendship after a break-up. There can be, but it needs time, and it's extremely rare.

[chickengrower]

I've been thinking about what you are saying. And in fact you are not the only one who said this. And as I'm reflecting, it is quite true. Its not even about the lessening of the guilt, but the selfishness of the intend of wanting to remain friends in certain cases. Because its convenient, because its easy, because the party does not need to go out and make new friends again. And its cruel because while the party may strictly maintain that they want to be friends, it is stringing the other party on, by the simple fact of keeping in contact.

It is extremely rare indeed, and its worse because sometimes when one says they are not ready, and the other agrees, to have the party who initiated the break to come back and say things along the lines of the post above, makes it even harder to stay away.

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[into_the_wild]

the angst of loving.

[chickengrower]

the joys, the tears, the pains, the growing up, of love.