I think you can go so far as to say "Gifts without batteries please", but any farther than that is veering dangerously close to the boundaries of taste. And the charity thing will be more useful in a couple of years.
I agree.. the charity thing will be more useful in a couple years.. as far as his birthday, in my humble opinion, is something that's personal to him, you, Ryan and your families. Christmas in my opinion would be completely appropriate.. everyone's giving everyone else something....sort of like allowing his birthday to think of himself for that day.....I'm sleep depped, so I dunno if you're going to follow, but I feel that it's like us moms. We need once in a while, to have our own selfish time...only think about ourselves...it's so with giving. Otherwise, people grow up like me... giving and giving and becoming a doormat.. not that he's going to grow up to be a doormat, but I was making a point lol
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I'm not super into miss manners or emily post (is she one in the same?) but I don't think it's really appropriate to tell guests what they can and can't get for your child. Your opportunity to do this would come when someone comes to you to ask if there's anything in particular he needs or wants. I think you just graciously accept their gift and remember "it's the thought". If you have a comfortable enough relationship with your in-laws then you can always bring up the sort of things you'd really like to get for him and hope they get the hint or mention that you're really running out of space for large toys and hope they get you smaller toys that you can stash away til they visit. -misty
Personally, I do believe that you have the right to monitor what comes to your child and what he should have as gifts. I'm 100% with you on that until of course he gets older and develops his own tastes.
As far as telling guests or people what you perfer, I believe it would depend on an individual. I personally would find your feedback useful and help cut down on having to decide. Also, having been a nanny before I'm also aware of "parent" consideration. Getting your kid an obnoxiously loud toy that wouldn't have any educational use is just going to drive you and Ryan crazy. I tend to keep those things in mind.
The appropriate or taste part of asking is in your delivery when you request it. I'm sure that some people may take offense because gifts shouldn't be monitored, but I think parents would understand your concerns. That's your baby right there. I'd be just as picky about it myself. Of course, a majority of my friend know how controlling I can get too. :-P For them it should be expected.
Create a gift registry at your local Walmart/Target/Kmart/where-the-hell-ever of the gifts that you would prefer for your child. I fully agree with the parental right to monitor what your child uses for play time. Therefore, in each card attach a smaller card with the registry information that states these are items that could be considered/are needed and so forth
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As far as telling guests or people what you perfer, I believe it would depend on an individual. I personally would find your feedback useful and help cut down on having to decide. Also, having been a nanny before I'm also aware of "parent" consideration. Getting your kid an obnoxiously loud toy that wouldn't have any educational use is just going to drive you and Ryan crazy. I tend to keep those things in mind.
The appropriate or taste part of asking is in your delivery when you request it. I'm sure that some people may take offense because gifts shouldn't be monitored, but I think parents would understand your concerns. That's your baby right there. I'd be just as picky about it myself. Of course, a majority of my friend know how controlling I can get too. :-P For them it should be expected.
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