Oh, Fuck. I'm gonna die alone.

[cieo]

The water is wide, I can't cross o'er
And neither have I wings to fly
Give me a boat that can carry two
And both shall row, my love and I____________________________________

Comments

[subsiding_leaf]

Oookay.^^; You can think about it like that if you really want.^^ Regardless of whether you get married, it's not like your friends are going to leave you just because they have no "real" confidence or something.

[cieo]

Aloooone--like sans romantic interest. You know how I feel about platonic friendships. :)

[popfiend]

Which is why I'm probably going to die alone. I won't settle on this note.

This is one of those things you say in your early 20s that turns out not to be true later in life.

It's not that simple.

Confidence isn't an all over thing. Confidence comes in pieces.

I'm confident in my ability to do my job and be a good husband. But I'm not sure about my appearance.

We're all sure or unsure about segments of ourselves. It is the rare person that is confident about EVERYTHING! I'm not sure that person even exists.

But you know what? There's gonna be someone who floats your boat. They'll be smart, funny, etc. But won't be confident in everything. They're gonna have holes and that's gonna be one of them.

But you know what?

You're gonna fill those gaps in confidence by being with that person. They'll be more confident just by being with you.

That's kind of the point, we join with people who make us whole. And if you focus on this confidence thing alone, you're kinda missing it.

:)

/my two cents

[cieo]

My whole deal is that there has to be something/confidence overall. I'm not asking for some perfect god-like person who can do no wrong, ya know? Just like I said, "whatever it is you do," be it computers, or sports--just something, which is not to imply everything :)

I'll get it some day, I suppose. For now, speculation is fun.

[kampongchicken]

Methinks you're looking for a match between two things. First, the area where your dream guy actually is confident in - said area inevitably has to somewhere on the border between the visible and invisible. Second, the area where you, subjectively and emotionally, want him to be confident in.

I could be wrong ...

[cieo]

Ah, KChick, you say it so much better than I do. Perhaps this is why you are TSC, and I am just an undergrad :)

[dr_nebula]

Confidence - that I do have.. That, and being an evil genius.

*g*

But alas, teh doctor is closing in on 50 and aging has slowlyb taken its toll.

[jfargo]

So, what you're saying is that you're madly in love with me?

I'm sorry. I understand, but please know that I love the illustrious Maria, and none can take me from her. I apoligize for allowing my confidence to sweep you off your feet, but it happens, from time to time.

It's okay, you'll find someone, somewhere, that is confident, and knows they're good at what they do without having to flaunt it like so many people.

Good luck.

[cieo]

That's exactly what I was trying to say, Fargo. How could you be so callous and uncaring in your rejection? Have I not a human heart--tender and fragile? Do I not deserve happiness? Swept off my feet, I have no ground to steady me--I will be forever sucked away into an pathetic vortex of despair and unattractively sniveling men.

There is no more meaning in my life.

Curse you.

[jfargo]

There is no more meaning in my life.

Chocolates? :-D

[cieo]

Dark, please.

[cieo]

I think the line is different for everyone. For me, it's just such a disappointment/annoyance when I spend time with someone and just think, "Man, you're just so full of yourself, buddy." It happens a lot particularly at Penn, when a lot of people just haven't ever been bad at anything in life, and they feel entitled to their egos.

I don't think it's impossible to think of yourself as capable and able to deal/whatever and NOT think that you're better than everyone or that you need for others to know it too.

And I think I'm back in my LJ groove. Holidays always throw me off :)

[misslinak]

call me negative, cynical, angry or whatever, but I think that most people out there don't have enough confidence to qualify for the "sexy confident" guy. Most of us have been fucked over intentionally and unintentionally by our parents, friends, siblings, relatives, etc. But I hear what you're saying, that confidence sure is alluring. When i meet mr. confidence, i'll pass him along to you, because as wonderful and sexy as he may be, my lack of confidence would fuck everything up. Nothing is perfect, mr. perfect wouldn't fit in.

[cieo]

Darling, I think after the blind date experience, I'll be keeping away from the men you provide ;)