I am in YET ANOTHER discussion with a stupid, stupid fanbrat about "homophobia" and how it means what it means and is not wrong just because it has "phobia" in it, which apparently ONLY EVER MEANS FEAR, as in the psychological condition, don't you know ( Read more... )

The trees add shade to shade, lights out in the houses, we'll both be lonely.And tonight, I feel very lonely. I don't feel as though I fit in anywhere. When I was younger I could run and hide in books and stories, and now that doesn't seem to work any more because my new situation has left me coverless and naked in front of the analysis-reel that's ( Read more... )

I've got a confession to make ( Read more... )

Sometimes, I am Richard, sometimes, I am not ( Read more... )

My Blackness My Cloak

My blackness is a beautiful cloak
of Selfhood that permeates my soul

So sister - white feminist

When you see
a bit of sun

Don't come
rushing to me

To say
"Look, I'll be as brown
(never black, God forbid)
as you soon"

or

also common
"I get even darker
than you"

Don't show
your peeling red flesh

Sister

I couldn't give a damn.

~ Maud Sulter

In many ( Read more... )

I come from a German middle-class family. Like my friends, I was raised in the eighties and nineties in one of the villages on the suburban fringe of a bigger city, and like my friends, I felt rather culture-less ( Read more... )

There are a couple of general assumptions on the power dynamics in a BDSM relationship and gender that drive me up the wall. Online, I participate in discussions with local Germans who are into BDSM rather than with English people, and most of the discussions I have on English sites are on kink rather than BDSM.

The difference between the two of ( Read more... )

There are statistics that give me nightmares, especially those relating to suicide, suicidal behaviour, and LGBT youths. As a future teacher who has done some training as well as a former student I know how unhealthy schools can be as an environment, how clueless and cruel students can be, and I have no doubt that, given the amount of time students ( Read more... )

I don't believe for a minute that anyone would choose to transition simply based on a paraphilia, even if they are steeped into it to any extreme, but I also don't doubt that it exists as a paraphilia (and what doesn't?).

While there are so many studies on trans women and their supposedly paraphilic ways and also, thankfully, studies of ciswomen ( Read more... )

I am convinced that if I was a guy, I'd be a "Nice Guy". Well, that is the worst case scenario, in the best case scenario, I'd be like Jeff in Herland. I'd fancy myself chivalric, I'd be devoted to the woman I'm in love with, and I'd feel a gratified little submissive twitch whenever the woman of my dreams asked me to do something for her. I can ( Read more... )