-
He's just not that into that
In the last three months, I have seen a marked increase in "how do I get my partner to dom me"-posts on LJ, fetish forums I read, fetish mailing lists, and the SZ. Where does that suddenly come from? I've been finding itching to reply, "not at all, prince/ss, and why don't you discuss with your partner instead of us?!" I really wonder how these ( Read more... ) -
Romance, porn and gendered power dynamics
This is a rather hurried and consequently half-assed opinion piece without any kind of theoretical backup which is the direct result of perusing the latest GLBTQ linkspams on this issue - I'll try to get to the backup later, but right now, I don't have the time.
Sexuality, power, and female sexuality
Maybe it's because I am a domme and for me, sex ( Read more... ) -
Your tastes piss me off
I know that people can't argue with sexual preferences, but the fact that so many female bisexual subs I meet online and offline have a very pronounced preference for male doms as opposed to dommes really bugs me.
I know that people can't help their preferences, but I doubt that that many people can have a completely individual interest for men as ( Read more... ) -
Fuck you, FB
My bra colour?
Because posting colours is going to raise awareness of my bras being the item of clothing that carries the parts of my body in which might grow cells that may kill me?
Is that really what you are saying?
Well, all I am hearing is this:
( Read more... ) -
Loss
In dreams, sometimes, the pictures come. Heather, moorlands, mountains rushing past. Rivers lazily meandering through lush grass, or white spray rushing down grey stone cliffs. Clouds so low that it seems as though you could hold your hand out of the car and catch a handful of the sinister, grey candy floss. Birds being quiet as you pass, the slick ( Read more... ) -
Piano keys
I discovered you before I discovered music. I always liked feeling things with my fingertips, touching, exploring. For hours, I could get wrapped up in simple sensations like my hand in a jar of dried beans, closing my eyes, being only with my fingers, in the feeling of rain or the shower on my hand, on my naked shoulders, shivers running down my ( Read more... ) -
Woman, not by choice
I sometimes daydream about waking up with a male body, but that is the same kind of daydream I have about waking up and being taller, waking up and having a slimmer waist, waking up and having long hair - or so it used to be. Last night, I really did dream I had a male body, and I felt a horrible sense of loss when I woke up and it was no longer ( Read more... ) -
Forever yearning
When I am a woman, there is longing. There is that moment of hope when you realise what is there and what you hope it to be. To become ( Read more... ) -
MEDITATION XVII.
The church is catholic, universal, so are all her actions; all that she does, belongs to all. When she baptizes a child, that action concerns me; for that child is thereby connected to that head which is my head too, and ingraffed into that body, whereof I am a member. And when she buries a man, that action concerns me; all mankind is of one ( Read more... ) -
Female gazes into the male heart and what bothers me about slash fiction
Porn negotiates power. Erotica negotiate power. The writer's fantasy, the kind of space created, the objects arranged for what kind of viewer, the way they are placed and the way they are treated, they all are factors in the creation of pornography. Maybe this view says more about me as a dominant person than about the people creating erotica, but ( Read more... )