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Dec 10, 2008 09:49

i want someone's advice on everything. i want someone to tell me how to work things out. i'm stressed out. i'm lonely. and worst of all, i know that no matter how much advice people give me, its not going to help, because i already know all of the things that they're going to say.

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destructacon December 10 2008, 17:00:55 UTC
haha, sounds to me like you need to stop listening to everyone else and listen to yourself. Becoming ok with being alone is the only step in not being lonely anymore. It's not as hard or sad as you'd think, but you already know that...haha. Cheer up, things being bad remind us that they've been better and will be better.

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ciznarrstar December 11 2008, 06:46:20 UTC
no max its not a matter of listening to someone else. its that i KNOW the right answer and im just WISHING that someone else could offer me a different one.

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ahimsa517 December 11 2008, 03:52:47 UTC
I read this and then had to scroll up to see if I had written it because it is EXACTLY how I feel.

Unfortunately, this means no advice, since I need advice too. Except I already know the advice. I guess I need an impossible solution.

Feel better.

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ciznarrstar December 11 2008, 06:45:19 UTC
yes exactly. i KNOW the correct solution to everything and what people would tell me to do, its just not the solution im wishing was right, because that one just is NOT in the cards.

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destructacon December 11 2008, 15:30:27 UTC
Ok, I'm not judging, but just trying to understand here. So your both saying you know what you have to do, and already know what people will tell you you have to do, but you want new advice presenting a solution you know is not the real answer or true. Sounds like you wish things were just plain different. So make them different and change your reality to one that would welcome what needs to be done. Only you can change that and you are far more than capable. Think like Nike, just do it.

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ciznarrstar December 11 2008, 17:59:31 UTC
when it comes to NOT HURTING PEOPLE max, you cant just "change things and make them different." it's IMPOSSIBLE. there is no way around it. and it sucks. which is why i wish that someone could give me some magical advice to fix everything.

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destructacon December 11 2008, 19:03:52 UTC
You can't predict or prevent someone else's hurt. You can only give them the luxury of honesty. It's all you have, shitty or not, and in the end it is the best gift you can give. Remember all wounds can heal in time, but lying to someone not to hurt them makes the process take longer. You owe it to your own sanity and to the person you don't want to hurt, to let them know how you feel sooner than later. Waiting won't change it.

Keep in mind honesty is always good, regardless of effect.

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theroadbehind December 11 2008, 18:29:02 UTC
One can easily spend a lifetime architecturing their decisions in such a manner that they do not hurt others, perhaps the ones they love.

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mjeric December 17 2008, 03:31:56 UTC
Beautifully put, without a doubt the smartest thing in this thread.

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