I guess I noticed that I'm maturing in my dealings with life, maybe even with friends and stressful situations... I just haven't been so mature with my romantic relationships. it's been a long time coming.
It's so amazing to see some of my thoughts written down by someone else. Not the kung-fu or the falsetto bits of course :) No, I mean about growing up and not complaining about the past anymore (my words not yours) but instead just dealing with all the "stuff" and getting on with a better life now. I'm not sure exactly what you mean by not believing in the family structure - I imagine that's part of your history though that I just don't know about. And I'd say the same thing myself, but with my own interpretation. I'm not sure I agree about your definition of maturity though. I think truly growing up is figuring out how to eliminate the things you don't want to do from your life and only having to do things you DO want to do. That's what I'm trying to grapple with at the moment. I only have one life to live, and I want to make it a good one, stress-free and all that. I've started to look upon those things that I usually call "shoulds" as "coulds" instead. Thereby turning not doing the "shoulds" into a choice rather than just
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hmmm I hadn't thought of eliminating things that I didn't want because I was young enough when I came up with that that the only things I didn't like were the things I was supposed to be doing: cleaning my room, walking the dog, doing the dishes... and now I am just too lazy to ask someone out on a date, I don't want to do my laundry, I don't want to put in tax return even though it makes me money... I'd rather watch a movie or play a game or read...
Eventually I guess maturity is forcing yourself to deal with your resposibilities, regardless. I guess maybe you're saying that part of maturity is deciding what your responsibilities are, and choosing them is half the battle. marp. hmm.
I guess what I was meaning is that in my life, I'd like to make it so that those things that I need to do become things that I want to do to make my life better. Like wanting to do laundry so that I can wear a certain item of clothing (maybe that's more of a girly thing I dunno). Yeah, it's work, but it's work that you want to do. Right now I'm wanting to work on my thesis because the quicker I get it done the quicker I can focus on other more fun things. I don't know if that makes sense for you, everyone's different. But that's how I'm trying to make my life work.
That last line is very well said... eating the broccoli when you really don't want to. Or getting up and out there and living your life to the fullest when it's easier to just sit at home. You have two choices in life: you can do what is right, or you can do what is easy. I think the wizard in harry potter said that....
that's funny, my Dad is a 4th degree black belt in Kung Fu and ALWAYS used to teach it to me when i was a kid. Last year i was thinking about taking it up as well...maybe i will.
I'm tired of watching other people dive out and fuck things up because they don't understand what they can and cannot do, and end up hurting themselves because of it.In reading through this, many are absolutely right - you are far more mature than you give credit for. But you seem to also always want to help others... "step in and take initiative" to help them figure out what they want. Maybe this "epiphany", if you will, came about because you've decided to sit back, deal with your OWN life, and not everyone elses. You can't keep running around after people. How else will they learn the things that you have learned/are learning
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P.S. Excuse my incoherence, I had so many thoughts going through my head, and was trying to pick a couple of them out. In reading back over my response, it didn't work out so well... but one last thought:
Maturity isn't forcing yourself to do what you don't want to do. It's merely doing what you know you need to, or should do even if/when it is different from what you want to do. Furthermore, realizing why it is you need to do it. ^.~
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Eventually I guess maturity is forcing yourself to deal with your resposibilities, regardless. I guess maybe you're saying that part of maturity is deciding what your responsibilities are, and choosing them is half the battle. marp. hmm.
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Excuse my incoherence, I had so many thoughts going through my head, and was trying to pick a couple of them out. In reading back over my response, it didn't work out so well... but one last thought:
Maturity isn't forcing yourself to do what you don't want to do. It's merely doing what you know you need to, or should do even if/when it is different from what you want to do. Furthermore, realizing why it is you need to do it. ^.~
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