do my thighs look big in this?

Oct 11, 2010 14:06

Yes.

Yes they do.

And that's okay.
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lion October 11 2010, 13:44:36 UTC
This post is great and you should feel great. ♥ I heartily agree with everything you've said here. Also, if you enjoy online-shopping, check out ASOS. It has quirky clothes and a plus-size range. My favourite UK clothes shop is River Island, and Dorothy Perkins is always reliable.

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copinggoggles October 11 2010, 19:16:50 UTC
Ahaha, you hit on two of my favourites. I love River Island; I am boobtacular, so I can't generally wear their more structured pieces (oh how I cooed and crooned over their aviator jacket, but alas it was not to be!), but a lot of their jumpers/slouchy tops/etc. are gorgeous, utterly on-trend, and just a little different from the sort of stuff you'd find elsewhere.

And yay Dorothy Perkins! They're a little... I don't know, mom-ish is kind of unfair, but still a little too mature and non-descript for me. BUT, their skinny jeans are outstanding. sdkfljsfldk so comfortable.

In re: online shopping, Iiii think I am pretty much dependent on being able to try things on in the store. The way things look on a mannequin or model is not the same as the way things look on the hanger, and neither of them are the same as the way things look on me. And it's that last part that kind of dictates whether I actually like something enough to spend money on it.

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copinggoggles October 11 2010, 19:46:35 UTC
Thank you for reading! I'm glad there's stuff in here that other people can find relatable or helpful, even if only the tiniest bit.

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rymenhild October 11 2010, 17:22:47 UTC
Well done.

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copinggoggles October 11 2010, 19:43:45 UTC
Thank you, although - hm. I'm not sure how to say this without sounding ungracious, and I do take your comment in the spirit it was given, but at the same time... I'm not really looking for pats on the back for achieving ____ level of Feminist Enlightenment and starting to love my body just the way it is.

Validation, sure; it's always nice to hear that people agree with your line of thinking, or are there to cheer, "You go, girl!" from the sidelines during your own personal journey of self-discovery. But something like, "Well done," however it's meant, has the potential to sound like an arbitration; like I'm about to be awarded a certificate in honour of my achievement/ability to overcome societal indoctrination/whatever - and I don't quite feel comfortable with that. If that makes any sense at all.

Thank you for reading, though, and for taking the time to comment. And I mean that.

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mercuriazs October 11 2010, 17:34:40 UTC
You, madam, are a badass.

There's an Ian McEwan quote you reminded me of with this, about how even if your mind can play tricks on you in re: what you look like, your mind is where you have to live. Good on you for making your mind a comfier place for yourself.

Also: AAAAH. These blogs are tremendous. THEY LOOK SO GREAT. Mmmmhello wasted morning. I see you in my immediate future.

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copinggoggles October 11 2010, 17:52:22 UTC
Also: AAAAH. These blogs are tremendous. THEY LOOK SO GREAT. Mmmmhello wasted morning. I see you in my immediate future.

IKR, AMAZING. Gabi and Sakina are like. My heroes. I want to be them when I grow up. Up-er. Whatever.

I have actually found myself wanting to start my own blog on, if not fashion-fashion, at least the ongoing process of 'saying "Fuck it," and buying skinny jeans' - or even just making OOTD posts of my own here on LJ. It would keep me motivated in terms of making an effort to look put together more days than not (which helps me feel more confident about my own fabulosity), to actively buy nice things as time and money allow (which would keep me from avoiding shopping out of insecurity, or winding up in the same "AHHH MY WARDROBE IS SO FULL OF JUNK IT IS EFFECTIVELY EMPTY," situation again), and so on and so forth.

The catch?

For the first time in literally years, I am living in a space without a full-length mirror.

*facepalm*

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mercuriazs October 12 2010, 17:14:25 UTC
Bloooooog.

I can never keep up with mine that I write! DO ONE.

... Full length mirrors are for the weak!

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fahye October 11 2010, 21:21:14 UTC
I am ALWAYS READY to squee about shoes. TELL ME ABOUT YOURS.

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