My sympathies. Over the last year and a half I have been driven half mad by Old Lady troubles of my own and wound up becoming my 90 year old Grandmother's legal guardian. What fun! Or not.
It's hard. I'm starting to talk to myself! Sis and I are going to have to make a decision soon. Sis and I own the condo, and if it comes to that we could sell it without her consent, but it took Ma so long to get some sovereignty over her own life I hate to take it away from her. This is the first time she's lived where all she sees is not traffic and concrete.
Good Lord! I do feel your pain I spent 2.5 years working as an in home health care provider and you can never be paid enough to do that. I cannot imagine having to do so for my mother. *shifts guiltily* when my mother was ill I was in college and the bulk of her care fell to my brother's.
Wish I could help you out, but hey my lav is upstairs and the kitchen is downstairs... just wouldn't work.
I hear you. Having an over-80, intelligent, bossy mother myself, and being met with the first signals of physical impediments, I can understand how torn you and your sister are between satisfying RL requirements and respecting her wishes.
I hope you can find an accommodation suitable to her needs (and yours!) and nice enough for her to agreeing to move. If I understand correctly, it's not like you are planning to "transplant" her from a beloved place bearing the memories of a lifetime into an unknown location, which would be a heartbreaking experience. You are just searching a way to increase her freedom and her independence, and make life more pleasant and less taxing for all of you.
No, I absolutely don't want to do that, although once she is gone I'll be hightailing it back up north so fast I'll leave a contrail. We have friends and relatives in every one of the five towns around our little city where I've also looked for properties, and all of these people drive, so she would never be isolated. It's just so frustrating, but I feel some relief having blown off steam. Thanks for listening.
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Oy! You have my deepest sympathies!!
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Wish I could help you out, but hey my lav is upstairs and the kitchen is downstairs... just wouldn't work.
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I hope you can find an accommodation suitable to her needs (and yours!) and nice enough for her to agreeing to move. If I understand correctly, it's not like you are planning to "transplant" her from a beloved place bearing the memories of a lifetime into an unknown location, which would be a heartbreaking experience. You are just searching a way to increase her freedom and her independence, and make life more pleasant and less taxing for all of you.
*keeps fingers crossed*
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