... this is a doozy. i'll be honest and say i'm not entirely sure of how to answer this, largely because this is a dice-y situation.
if there is someone you know loves you in the same way you love them (a romantic way, i mean), it's a wonderful feeling. but please remember a relationship is a privilege. i really wouldn't care about how this all came to be, a relationship isn't a necessity for a happy life. you can make yourself happy on your own. you just have to try. you can feel special without a significant other. you just have to try. i know that can seem difficult, but it's part of being independent. you'll love yourself a lot more when you realize you can make yourself happy.
that said, my advice would be to be respectful. there's nothing you can do about them not wanting to be in a relationship. just be there; they love you, right? so they won't push you away. it's true that the most obvious step here would be to ask them out, but it doesn't have to be. it's okay to be different. you don't have to force this in anyway. let
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I worry a lot that I'm boring or not that interesting to my friends. I've been told otherwise, but I don't get many things asked about me or my posts responded to often. Do you think it's something I'm doing? :'(
i've noticed these days that the more you reach out to people, the more they reach back. it takes a while for me, personally, to reach out to people. the only thing i can guess is you're expecting people to come to you first (which is fine! i'm like that, too, it's just a sign of shyness, i think) which... well, other people do too. try talking to them and getting involved with them. establish friendships. it can be a little difficult, but keep trying.
lately i find myself really hating how my rp partners play their characters. they don't act human, and they just do stuff that's really OOC to get CR quicker instead of playing stuff out. i know RP is supposed to be pretendy funtimes, but i hate how if you try to bring up them being OOC everyone jumps on you and suddenly all these excuses are fired off and they just refuse to see your point. or even consider it. then you're the bad guy ruining the fun for everyone.
i love my friends. i just...don't want to rp with their certain characters. which ultimately means we have nothing to talk about anymore. it's frustrating.
also this isn't about you or anyone you rp with. just to be clear.
tbh i know how this feels. i think it has to do with the fact a lot of people are used to laid back plotting now. i don't think it's a bad thing, it just means you aren't on the same page as them.
i'm kind of tired of that reaction, to crit, too. when i get crit, i'm honestly really happy someone pays enough attention to notice those flaws, and who cares enough about my playing that they want to correct me. yeah, it's a blow to the ego, but it happens. you gotta learn to take the concrit.
well, just for the record, you're free to concrit me. that's totally fine, brosis.
i'm really not on the same page as them all at all - i'm something of a third wheel when they excitedly talk about their threads together. at least i can hold myself back from saying things like "but their relationship is built on nothing" or "it's OOC for your paranoid character to trust this one as soon as they meet". i don't want to outwardly slam their fun or anything. i just want them to realize "hey, you're getting carried away and now you're OOC, there is an IC way to do what you want!" one time i did stick up for myself when one of my own characters was involved, and they just could not seem to understand what i was saying until someone else in the chat finally got on my side and convinced them to be more IC about what they wanted
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ah :( that's... really not good. i would suggest not playing with them, then. i know it's a shitty situation, but it's what i would do. it's really the only choice you have. though, i know it would suck so much, i don't think it's worth the frustration.
it's just... it seems like such a crappy situation all around! all you can do is put up with it or move on from it. which sucks, AGAIN, cus it really does. but... that seems like the only options. ;_;
and i agree with that! giving crit isn't a bad thing, at all. that's why we pick up canon characters, right? i mean, rp is fun, sure, but picking up a canon character is about playing about them, or at least how we interpret them, right? so...
i'm sort of worried that i'm pretty much unlikeable, romantically. like i'll just be the big sister figure, and only that, forever. alright not forever, but you get what i mean.
don't get me wrong, it's good that my friends are happy, but it's kind of a blow to the ego when i see all these people getting confessed to and entering relationships. it makes me wonder if i'm doing something wrong, which is...a bit ironic, all things considered. it kind of sucks, tbh
youuuu probably know who this is but i just needed to get it out, ugh
i know what you mean, but try not to take it like that. the best i can say right now is that sometimes, people do care about you, but don't admit it. i mean, look at this way: people dislike rejection, and it really sucks to be faced with it, so people avoid it all together.
really, it's not that you're unlikeable, in that fashion. it just takes times. things like this happen. don't let it get you down! :(
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if there is someone you know loves you in the same way you love them (a romantic way, i mean), it's a wonderful feeling. but please remember a relationship is a privilege. i really wouldn't care about how this all came to be, a relationship isn't a necessity for a happy life. you can make yourself happy on your own. you just have to try. you can feel special without a significant other. you just have to try. i know that can seem difficult, but it's part of being independent. you'll love yourself a lot more when you realize you can make yourself happy.
that said, my advice would be to be respectful. there's nothing you can do about them not wanting to be in a relationship. just be there; they love you, right? so they won't push you away. it's true that the most obvious step here would be to ask them out, but it doesn't have to be. it's okay to be different. you don't have to force this in anyway. let ( ... )
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i love my friends. i just...don't want to rp with their certain characters. which ultimately means we have nothing to talk about anymore. it's frustrating.
also this isn't about you or anyone you rp with. just to be clear.
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i'm kind of tired of that reaction, to crit, too. when i get crit, i'm honestly really happy someone pays enough attention to notice those flaws, and who cares enough about my playing that they want to correct me. yeah, it's a blow to the ego, but it happens. you gotta learn to take the concrit.
well, just for the record, you're free to concrit me. that's totally fine, brosis.
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it's just... it seems like such a crappy situation all around! all you can do is put up with it or move on from it. which sucks, AGAIN, cus it really does. but... that seems like the only options. ;_;
and i agree with that! giving crit isn't a bad thing, at all. that's why we pick up canon characters, right? i mean, rp is fun, sure, but picking up a canon character is about playing about them, or at least how we interpret them, right? so...
jhdff aww no it's ok! i understand! i'll listen!
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don't get me wrong, it's good that my friends are happy, but it's kind of a blow to the ego when i see all these people getting confessed to and entering relationships. it makes me wonder if i'm doing something wrong, which is...a bit ironic, all things considered. it kind of sucks, tbh
youuuu probably know who this is but i just needed to get it out, ugh
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i know what you mean, but try not to take it like that. the best i can say right now is that sometimes, people do care about you, but don't admit it. i mean, look at this way: people dislike rejection, and it really sucks to be faced with it, so people avoid it all together.
really, it's not that you're unlikeable, in that fashion. it just takes times. things like this happen. don't let it get you down! :(
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