A Question For ALL

[courtierka]

I would especially like to hear what the Peers have to say about the following question:

Is it pretentious/bad in any other form to have flashes of thought about what I would want my Vigil (should I ever be offered a Peerage) to be like?  Who I would want to participate in any ceremonies, etc... Is it bad to want to write the thoughts down so I don

Comments

[fabricdragon]

not a peer, but i believe the best term for this is called "the power of positive thinking"

[corbaegirl]

No, it's not bad. I don't have a hope in hell of becoming Queen in my own right, but I've got my coronation all planned out. :-)

Seriously, there's a BIG difference between "I want to be a Peer someday" and "I'm going to be a Peer". The first implies that you want to be good enough at your craft to be considered a Peer, the second that you just want the goody. That's a vast simplification, but you get the gist.

[vanagnessayem]

I had no thoughts on my becoming a peer, and then when it happened I was all "what the hell do I do?!". I was the quietest vigil and the shortest ceremony in a marathon court day of peer making. So, no it isn't bad to dream, it helps one be prepared in any eventuality.

[the_thread_lady]

As Corbaegirl said, there is a big difference between "Want" and "Will". There is nothing wrong with Aspirations. It is when they become Expectations that we set ourselves up for hurt feelings, disappointment and bitterness.

Goals can be worked toward and often the journey is it's own reward. It is the "I have done this and this and this - where's my pretty-shiney" that is the wrong attitude that only hurts the thinker.

Dreams are good - Dream Away. Again, like Corbaegirl, I have my never-to-happen Coronation as Queen all planned! ;-D

[countess_e]

Well, I had notions about my eventual wedding back when I still thought boys were icky. I really don't think ideas about what would be really cool in a possible someday can be classified as bad form.