Jen is a buzzkiller.

[cruelbitch]

In my line of work, I get constantly propositioned not only for sex acts but also for extreme sex acts. With my particularly over-analytical state of mind, this can either be pretty hilarious or highly disturbing. In the back of my mind, I'm silently wondering if these fantasies are borne out of genuine desire or if they're conditionings projected

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[kassyd]

I would buy your kind of porn. I'd much prefer it to the kind of porn available now. However, I find myself unable to really concentrate on the list because I'm so concerned about the fact that a motherfucker choked you. Isn't there anything you can do about that, like get him banned from the fucking strip club? Or arrested? It makes me worry about you, because I don't want some psycho to do the same thing except not stop. Sorry if I'm being gay about this, but it's just because I love you and want to stab in the face anyone who hurts you. I want to find that asshole and cut off his balls with a rusty knife. Please try to be careful for me Geoffrey, I don't know what I would do without you.

-Clarence

[cruelbitch]

Well, I did report him to the management, and apparently he's done things like this before. He also bit me on the throat hard enough to draw blood, and did the same to another girl I talked to. Another girl had claw marks up her legs from fending him off. I love you, and I'll be fine. I haven't seen him back in a while. You're welcome to castrate him, however.

[masochrist_zero]

I agree in that pornography poses two main problems: Giving men a false notion of what women want, and giving women a false notion of what's expected of them

[cruelbitch]

Regarding fellatio about women's dominion, I'm not so sure I agree. Teasing, yes, but a thorough blowjob requires repetitive, rhythmic suction once you've gotten them past the point of susceptibility to cockteasing. A few minutes of this and you're drooling, forcing breath through your nose and your jaw cramps and goes numb. Talk about an empowering experiance.

I've overheard conversations at work with married mothers who say things like "The worst is when he wants to pull out and come all over your face. It's so gross." I'm not sure who's fault it is that they continue to recieve this: Hers for not speaking up, or his for being indifferent to her protests (callous lust) or deriving pleasure from her protests (malevolent lust).

"If he insists that you swallow his cum, hold it in your mouth and snowball it back to him. If he doesn't like the taste or the thought of swallowing his own bodily fluids, then he has absolutely no right forcing that opinion on his partner." This is a pretty valid point.

"Unfortunately people will probably

[masochrist_zero]

"..requires repetitive, rhythmic suction once you've gotten them past the point of susceptibility to cockteasing. A few minutes of this and you're drooling, forcing breath through your nose and your jaw cramps and goes numb."

The exact statements could be said for cunnilingus, but there was never a debate on whether or not the man was being mistreated by subjecting himself to said pain for the woman's pleasure.

Which leads me to question whether the act of oral sex in and of itself is completely irrelevant, regardless of which set of genitals it's performed on, and the entire concept of being demeaned while giving fellatio is nothing more than a socially conditioned thought process.

[cruelbitch]

I'm not really surprised to hear this argument from someone who has a blowjob fetish, but let's pretend I don't know this. Of course it's an issue regardless of the gender. My point is that if anything becomes painful or uncomfortable for the giver for the sole benefit of the reciever then in my opinion it's not worth doing. I have no issues with teasing; there is a power dynamic that can be fun without being threatening, because the recipient of the teasing not being harmed (obviously). But the thorough format of suction is only pleasurable before a certain point. Also dick vs. vag proposes a few subliminal theories in my head... considering the abuse many females endure during most types of sexual activity, a blowjob is just tacked onto the list, whereas cunnilingus is basically the only area where a man will have to exercise his endurance without having anything else expected of him

[chaos_dictates]

i don't know how you do it.

honestly. i want better things for you. you articulate your thoughts so beautifully that I can almost understand. but it also just makes me feel weak.

[cruelbitch]

Could you expand a little on this? I'm not sure I grasp what you're saying.

[chaos_dictates]

I could never experience situations you do (at work) without it breaking me. You're strong.
But I wish you didn't have to live like that. I'm sorry if that makes me sound entitled. It just makes me sad that you have to deal with icky people like that.

I'm not strong enough to let it NOT affect me.

[cruelbitch]

It's not neccesarily the worst job in the world, but when you're already in a vile mindset it does chip away at your polished veneer a tad. Thing is, I'm conditioned to this type of behavior from people, inside or outside of work. I have an unconventional appearence and a brazen attitude and people think I'm more susceptible to their most deviant innerworkings because they feel like I won't be shocked by it. Needless to say I find these actions unsurprising but reprehensible. For the most part I deal with older upstanding gentlemen who are respectful and appreciate the art of striptease as opposed to the modern mentality of using people as fuck and chucks. But the point of my entry was that I feel like a lot of people, especially people brought up in an image-based culture (vs a print-based culture) tend to metamorphisize into what they see (or masturbate to) day in and day out and regard sex workers as dirty as the actress in their videos. Of course, then you get the creepy old men stereotype which further capitalizes on the totality

[cruelbitch]

I have to say, the fact that you're challenging me by suggesting that "everyone else" would be miserable because I removed debauchery from the general format of pornography speaks a lot about what I was trying to convey in the first place. In addition, throwing out the assumption that I have a warped view on sex further capitalizes on this. What I did was explore the negatives to find more positives, making an honest assessment of how I'd direct the filmography of videos if I were to have an influence on the business (I clearly don't, but again, that wasn't the point). And while I did toss out the occasional surly remark about people's actual lives, the focal point of the entry was geared primarily toward the sex industry's biased exploitation

[cruelbitch]

Also, your anorexia/pop culture reference brings forth the point that while yes, people who submit to a preconstructed stereotype designed for them are weak and pathetic, that doesn't mean it's acceptable to enable the media's fellating of emaciated women by dismissing it as not a problem. When you connect these images to beauty over and over and over again, it becomes encoded in your very neurotransmitters that this *is* beauty, this *is* the standard and whether or not I conform to it I will always be portrayed in a more negative lense in comparison, and always take a backseat to the more "attractive" person in social settings, business, and in general because humans are visual creatures. And whether you are healthy it will always be shelved into the back of your mind until the day you die because it is grafted into our imagery on an alarmingly constant basis. To nail the followers of this conformity is to also nail on the media for projecting these images in the first place

[bruisedpearls]

It sounds exactly like bangbros. I hate that fucking site.