Comments | cruelbitch: A schadenfreudal orgasm.

cruelbitch

A schadenfreudal orgasm.

Feb 18, 2009 19:12

Delightful.

Author's Note: This lengthy diatribe was inspired by a sf-drama post -- a forum I do not attend, nor do I desire becoming invested in -- which elicited a severe twitch of irritation within me. I, very reluctantly, said nothing. After all, why would I, somebody who devotes massive amounts of their time into Dare-I-Say-PC research, ever want to ( Read more... )

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neverbeeneasy February 19 2009, 11:23:59 UTC

After a while, I just gave up. I always felt dirty and violated after making myself engage in these things. I had decided that I was asexual ( ... )

neverbeeneasy February 19 2009, 11:26:23 UTC

My relationship with sex is a constant mental struggle. I hate when I recognize things in my head that came to be from years of watching pornography. People say that I am hating what is 'natural', but ... it's not natural. We don't know what the natural state of human sex is. Thoughts are involved, attitudes, concepts, all of that that animals just usually don't have when they're fucking ( ... )

cruelbitch February 19 2009, 12:09:24 UTC

First: Thanks for elaborating on this. Seriously. And don't worry about loosely conceptualizing it; I understand where you're going, what you mean.

I suppose the first thing I want to address is the detailing of romance -- either mildly interlocked or completely divorced from -- sex. It's something that I've mentioned grappling with internally: how a rigid line drawn for orientation (with regards to being "homo-romantic") delves into an essentialistic territory that I'm rather disconcerted by. That being stated, I grok your descriptions of sensuality (romance defined within your own parameters) perfectly. I have no reservations about eroticizing traditionally un-erotic things, provided it contains that associated pureness. Unfortunately, as I mentioned in my post, the entwining of carnality and inanimate objects, for example, is usually done with a kitschy and rancid deviance ... and one that is quite deliberate. Obviously, you understand that this isn't rooted in puritannical naysaying, because I have no problems with eroticism that ( ... )

neverbeeneasy February 19 2009, 12:56:55 UTC

I don't mind! I'll keep replying to you, too. I actually have a lot to say on the issue of redefining romance, and once I get more sleep I'll probably be more confident in my ability to articulate my thoughts. I just wanted to say I totally feel you on this: I've attempted detailing it within the framework of siblinghood before, which elicits paralleled disturbing reactions and incestuous conceptualizations from others -- which, is not at all What I Meant.

I've always talked about how I've had sister-like relationships with my girlfriends, and people just ... don't really understand what I mean, haha.

onthetide February 19 2009, 13:28:53 UTC

FWIW, I completely understand your descriptions of love and romance. I feel the same way, I think.

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demonista March 4 2009, 03:31:05 UTC

hey jen, i'd like to link to this for the next carni of radfems. that ok? if it's with you, i'll also ask the commenters here who left personal details before i do.

cruelbitch March 4 2009, 15:06:39 UTC

I'm personally alright if you link it. I would wait for neverbeeneasy's response, though. Is it the comments you're interested in, or the original post, or both?

If she's reluctant to have personal knowledge shared, I could create an empty text file of OP and email it to you. Alternatively, I could copy&paste the post + comments (if that's what you want) and omit the usernames of people. Let me know.

neverbeeneasy March 17 2009, 04:25:10 UTC

I AM JUST GOING TO LINK YOU THINGS IN PM ♥ :* SINCE I COULDNT GET ON AIM LAST NIGHT