i got very confused about this one? What is that you want of masmooch? a ring? a 'marry me hottie'? what is that you want from masmooch? do you want anything? why are you disatisfied? are you disatisfied?
hmmmm.....tis a conundrum. i professed that i would never get married and possibly never have kiddlie-winks but here i am just about to embark on that journey.
in your fairytale you have already got the guy, the handsome prince. remember when he were in the love with Dave 1 and Dave 2. who knew that one of us would end up with one of them. what a spin out! what fate!
Well - that's the problem...cyn_botJanuary 19 2005, 17:47:14 UTC
I have the handsome prince. I have exactly what I want. I'm so happy I could pop! But a small insistent part of my nutso, still low self esteem riddled parts keep worrying at the fact that without being married - how can I relax? How can we be having the happily ever after
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Re: Well - that's the problem...leakyspiderJanuary 20 2005, 14:49:00 UTC
Now...this rambling of nutso-ness I understand:):)
I think the statement: Perhaps I have to accept that I have a nutso hump and I have negative and destructive issues and attitudes - embrace these less-than-desirable parts of my psyche and therefore negate their negative and destructive power over my life
Could be a good idea.
On the other hand....why don't you ask him to marry you? I am not saying that marriage is a natural progression there are many other ways of progressing the relationship...but if it's the way you show committment...a value held dear to you then why not ask him and explain it that way.
Do you want to be married? Or are you just afraid of losing him (or rejection)? Do you feel comfortable with him - like it is natural and normal and wonderful to be "beside/part of" masmooch everyday? If so then ask him.
Hmmmmm...tis a tricky 'how to resolve' type issue. Hmmm??
Re: Well - that's the problem...leakyspiderJanuary 20 2005, 14:51:42 UTC
Oh and also, you have to stop beating yourself up over the first marriage. It was a mistake. It doesn't mean that all marriages end like that. There were alot of factors that pushed you into marriage and I think you were just too young and not ready.
Do you feel that you and masmooch will be together for a long time? That it's just the natural way of things that you two belong together? Does it feel much different than the first relationship? ??
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hmmmm.....tis a conundrum. i professed that i would never get married and possibly never have kiddlie-winks but here i am just about to embark on that journey.
in your fairytale you have already got the guy, the handsome prince. remember when he were in the love with Dave 1 and Dave 2. who knew that one of us would end up with one of them. what a spin out! what fate!
so what more is that you want, little one?
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I think the statement:
Perhaps I have to accept that I have a nutso hump and I have negative and destructive issues and attitudes - embrace these less-than-desirable parts of my psyche and therefore negate their negative and destructive power over my life
Could be a good idea.
On the other hand....why don't you ask him to marry you? I am not saying that marriage is a natural progression there are many other ways of progressing the relationship...but if it's the way you show committment...a value held dear to you then why not ask him and explain it that way.
Do you want to be married? Or are you just afraid of losing him (or rejection)? Do you feel comfortable with him - like it is natural and normal and wonderful to be "beside/part of" masmooch everyday? If so then ask him.
Hmmmmm...tis a tricky 'how to resolve' type issue. Hmmm??
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Do you feel that you and masmooch will be together for a long time? That it's just the natural way of things that you two belong together? Does it feel much different than the first relationship? ??
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