I think love is a verb.redbaydreamerApril 20 2010, 00:45:14 UTC
Work, work, work. That is how relationships survive and love continues. Unfortunately some people make it look easy and so sometimes we don't see how much work goes into a good relationship. It is something that needs tending (work) or it falls apart. I sometimes wonder if it is harder for highly social people. B and I have never been very social, probably mostly because of all the moving we have done but also the sort of work we have been involved in. I think I mentioned this recently, but I have not had a "good friend" for a long time, I was working on one before we moved from Jville. As a couple we have not had a couple that we have "hung out with" since we left Tampa. I think when you just have each other you have to work at getting along and finding things to do together. Keep working at it, it is worth it even after all these years.
I agree. But sometimes you need assistance as to how to make a certain situation work. Even if you are willing to "work" to make things better, how does one know what "work" needs to be done. Your current living situation requires that assistance, doesn't it?
I remember a debate question, I think it was in high school, that was about competition and cooperation. Which is better? It's a question that I think about every now and then.
I think your war v. partnership dichotomy in relationships is similar. War is competition, the struggle for power in a relationship. Partnership is cooperation, the search for mutual benefit and understanding.
Most real-world systems have elements of both. Even in relationships. Even in healthy, successful relationships. Communication is key, staying open to considering the WE in a relationship and not just the I. But we also need to protect ourselves.
Of course, I'm not at all an expert in relationships, but I agree with Mom that relationships require work. Maybe I learned that from my parents.
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Your current living situation requires that assistance, doesn't it?
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I think your war v. partnership dichotomy in relationships is similar. War is competition, the struggle for power in a relationship. Partnership is cooperation, the search for mutual benefit and understanding.
Most real-world systems have elements of both. Even in relationships. Even in healthy, successful relationships. Communication is key, staying open to considering the WE in a relationship and not just the I. But we also need to protect ourselves.
Of course, I'm not at all an expert in relationships, but I agree with Mom that relationships require work. Maybe I learned that from my parents.
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