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dads_skrink

Caregiver of a Dementia Patient

Apr 22, 2010 12:48

I feel behind the eight ball on this with my Mom.
The situation right now, should have been last year. Meaning, someone living with Mom.
We are so behind.
This year is a whole new set of needs. I don't know how far we are away from 24 hour nursing care.

BUT, if none of us can see this decline in real time, how can we manage her care.
Last year, I mean ( Read more... )

dementia, family

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I am right there with you. redbaydreamer April 22 2010, 18:56:50 UTC

This is part of why I wanted to have the geriatric assessment. I have to admit that when they found her with only mild dementia, I was disappointed. However, she seems to do well at water aerobics. She does not move as much as we might like, but she dresses herself, gets herself into the pool, swims, and follows the directions of the teacher. Most of the time at crafts she participates and does what she is asked to do and sometimes she participates in the discussions going on around her. Yes, today in knitting she fell asleep but most of the time she knits and answers questions and seems okay. I think if we put her in a home right now she would do nothing and why put her in a home and then have me go pick her up and take her to classes and then drop her off. That just seems wrong. If I get overwhelmed right now it is more often because of the dog barking and my frustrations in training her. I would suppose if someone should go for that reason maybe it is the dog. One of the things about Mom's dementia is that it is not a ( ... )

Here goes........ dads_skrink April 22 2010, 19:29:12 UTC

To be more clear.... you personally find it difficult to handle being care giver for 7 days in a row; as I understand things. If you had someone coming in or took Mom to a day-away place you would not have to rely on family filling in when you need assistance ( ... )

Re: Here goes........ redbaydreamer April 24 2010, 00:20:04 UTC

Sorry, I did not mean to by pass anything. I think Mom is content with the idea of Hamlet and it took us a long time to get her comfortable with that, so I think we stay with that. My last contact with them was let us know when you are ready and we will get her in as soon as we have a room.

from M anonymous April 23 2010, 16:40:55 UTC

I enfold you and this whole thing with Mom in Prayer. God is strong and merciful! Please try not to be so afraid of where we are going, it is sad for sure, Mom is not the person she was, no doubt about that. Spend as uch time as you can with Mom...loving her where she is! I Love you All!

M