Empowering Question #2

[dani_57226]

Question: What is it that fascinates me so much, that the thought or feeling of it won't leave me alone?  How do I put this feeling into action right now?

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[dani_57226]

Sometimes it can. Not too often, but there are days I can’t shut my mind off and I battle to sleep until exhaustion takes over.

[dani_57226]

I don’t actually. However, most of the time that it keeps me up is after I’ve been asleep for some time. So my body fights me.

[fxdupprincess]

I share some of your anxiety over self-improvement though I’m not sure mine is so intense. My husband helps a lot to calm down my obsessiveness with doing things right. Do you or did you have alcoholic or drug addicted parents? My parents were alcoholics, and I once read a book on perfectionism and how it’s related to not being fully loved or approved of by alcoholic parents. I think at that time it helped to start realizing that my way of doing things stemmed from never feeling loved and nurtured, my counselor says so too that I need to nurture myself more, and be hard on myself less...

[dani_57226]

I actually had really great parents who suffer with no addiction issues, but my Dad does have anxiety. I was harder on myself then anything else because I'm the oldest and only girl. I always wanted to make sure I was a good example, and never wanted to disappoint anyone. As I go through therapy I think my first relationship actually had most of the effect on how I deal with things. As I go through things and realize what triggers me the most it's that. I think it's a very good question though, because I can see how that would really change a person by dealing with parents who have addiction issues. I'm sorry you had to go through that yourself.