Sorry your date didn’t go to well. I don’t understand the logic of insulting someone you are interested in while on a date with them.
I’m personally not a big fan of dating anyway; it’s an artificial scenario you create for the sole purpose of finding out if you want to be romantically attached, the pressure is too great and you are never ‘yourself.’ I think it’s better to socialise with them in a group and become kind of friends first; you don’t have to go through the whole 20 Questions routine and you’ll have a good idea of their character.
As for bitchy sarcastic comments, the sad thing is those people do have a quick mind and certain degree of wit; if only they would use their powers for good instead of evil. The way to my heart is being humorously ironic and quick with it...which sadly isn’t as easy as being vile for a cheap laughs.
Just out of curiosity...what are some adjectives you would use to describe the sterotypical English fag? And I'm not refering to cigerettes ;) I would be interested to see how similar the English stereotype is to the American stereotype.
It's commonly referred to as "reading". Margaret Cho (not to get too stereotypical on you) talks about it in the most accurate terms I've heard to date. It's a basic scan from top to bottom where the "reader" has .02 seconds to determine your most sensitive weakness. If no obvious physical flaw is found, you probe for personality traits, and if all else fails...you move to money, social circles or possessions. So...looks like you made it through the first few tests for flaws.
You seem to have more insight into the inner-workings of the gays than I ever will so I pose this question to you.
(If anyone else reads this and has something to contribute please do.)
Do you know why most young homos have such problems with being good friends to eachother? By good friends I mean being polite, reliable, prudent, selfless, honest, REAL etc...basically having integrity and some measure of humility and humanity. I've never noticed nearly the frequency and level of character-flaws in my straight friends and aquaintances as I do in the gays I meet. It is shocking and sad. The youngest generation of gays are perfect products of the throw-away culture that spawned them. I think there is little hope for gay men as a group to gain respect from wider society when the gays so rarely even respect eachother. I know I'm making some broad sweeping statements here and there are plenty of exceptions to what I'm refering to but haven't you noticed the general trend?
I had tucked this away in my inbox somewhere with the intention of replying much sooner than this. But in my haste to clean out my inbox one day, I'm quite sure I accidentally deleted it
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Thanks for your thoughts on all of this. You brought up some things I hadn't really considered. With all this new food for thought I'm still pondering and the verdict is still out.
Haha, yeah I sort of got a crush on Andrew Greer right before he left too. It must be something about friends moving far away that makes me want to cling to them.
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I’m personally not a big fan of dating anyway; it’s an artificial scenario you create for the sole purpose of finding out if you want to be romantically attached, the pressure is too great and you are never ‘yourself.’ I think it’s better to socialise with them in a group and become kind of friends first; you don’t have to go through the whole 20 Questions routine and you’ll have a good idea of their character.
As for bitchy sarcastic comments, the sad thing is those people do have a quick mind and certain degree of wit; if only they would use their powers for good instead of evil. The way to my heart is being humorously ironic and quick with it...which sadly isn’t as easy as being vile for a cheap laughs.
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Just out of curiosity...what are some adjectives you would use to describe the sterotypical English fag? And I'm not refering to cigerettes ;) I would be interested to see how similar the English stereotype is to the American stereotype.
--Daniel
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Excitable, Camp, Bitchy, Flippant and Materialistic
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Pat yourself on the back, then.
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You seem to have more insight into the inner-workings of the gays than I ever will so I pose this question to you.
(If anyone else reads this and has something to contribute please do.)
Do you know why most young homos have such problems with being good friends to eachother? By good friends I mean being polite, reliable, prudent, selfless, honest, REAL etc...basically having integrity and some measure of humility and humanity. I've never noticed nearly the frequency and level of character-flaws in my straight friends and aquaintances as I do in the gays I meet. It is shocking and sad. The youngest generation of gays are perfect products of the throw-away culture that spawned them. I think there is little hope for gay men as a group to gain respect from wider society when the gays so rarely even respect eachother. I know I'm making some broad sweeping statements here and there are plenty of exceptions to what I'm refering to but haven't you noticed the general trend?
--Daniel
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Haha, yeah I sort of got a crush on Andrew Greer right before he left too. It must be something about friends moving far away that makes me want to cling to them.
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