Warning...emotional purging ahead...

[darkgryphn]

I don't remember the day my parents told us they were getting divorced very clearly...it was only 7 years ago, but what I remember are feelings, not any words. My mom did most of the talking while my dad mostly just cried. I remember that they stressed it wasn't our fault. I remember they assured us they still wanted to be friends, but wouldn't

Comments

[alekryan]

Divorce is a scary thing for a child, it turns your whole world upside down. I think your parents were only trying to protect you guys, and sometimes telling a lie is easier than the truth. I am not justifying them not telling you, because I agree you were old enough to handle it.

Consider this an opportunity, you can help restore your mom's faith in marriage by showing her it can work.

[darkgryphn]

Oh, I know they were trying to protect us. A benefit of being older when your parents divorce...being mature enough to have an understanding of their motivations.

[alekryan]

I was like 2 when that happened for me. I don't remember anything at all. I hardly knew my dad.

[mommaviking]

After working with you for so many years I know that they raised one very special girl. Enjoy planning for your special day! I can not wait to hear about it! :)

[virgino_orsino]

Divorce is very world turning and crashing for everyone involved, as alekryan mentioned. I have my own personal experience to draw on for that as well with my parents' divorce when I was in middle school. Definitely no picnic. But you are a different person from your parents who has all of that experience to draw on and learn from. Despite it being a really awful time of your life, it still has helped to make you who you are.

[pennhothwen]

*hugs*

For various reasons entirely their own, my parents didn't even come to my wedding... or acknowledge my eventual divorce. It sucks when parents project their own issues onto their children. Sorry you have to deal with other people's old baggage in connection with something that should be happy and new and all your own, and for what it's worth, I'm rooting for you :)