Going on holiday with ex

[wormslearntofly]

Hi, I've gotten really good advice here before, so here I am again!

Comments

[lupinlover]

Could you go and then spend the time apart? Just see each other at the hotel?

[stalkingsilence]

If your initial gut reaction was to not go, maybe that might be something you might want to listen to. You even called him a dickhead in this post; do you really want to be in Spain with a dickhead?

[gatehorse]

Don't go. You'll have a much less stressful holiday at home. This weekend won't magically make you forget about the relationship and the breakup and end with you guys as friends forever ever after. A free flight to Spain is not worth reopening the wounds you're trying to heal.

[silver_test]

I'm also an anxious and nervous person; travelling really stresses me out. Do I have my tickets? What if I miss my connection? Etc. Once I'm there it's fine, but the travel itself is awful. It caused a huge fight with my ex when our flight was delayed and he was cool as a cucumber and I was freaking out. So keep that in mind if you think you also get anxious about travel.
But yah, I think the potential is there to reopen old wounds and make you feel worse, at a time when you're trying to heal.
Unless you know that you won't get anxious during the travel itself, and then once you're there you can spend your time apart, and have a room with two double beds. Then maybe it would be ok.
But I don't think it's worth it. Stay with your friends and enjoy your brothers birthday, and maybe think about planing and saving for a different trip with your friends or family; something new to look forward to.

[wormslearntofly]

It's not the travel itself that's making me feel nervous, it's fact that I'm uncertain about what I'm going to do about the situation. Situations that are unclear always make me feel stressed.

You know, I don't think I'm going to go even though I would love to go Bilbao. It's not worth it. (But I'm probably going to change my mind a million times more!)