I have a question for you all. (PLEASE RESPOND)

[melaniejaye]

Whats everyones thoughts about a femal@e proposing to her s/o?

Edit: this is a male female relationship in which the male would usually propose to the female. The female is the one who would like to propose.

Now however if the LGBT community is in here, when you plan on getting married how do you choose who will propose? I would assume it would be

Comments

[three_oh_five]

Is the S/O male or female? If it is a female proposing to female, I don't see anything wrong with that.

But female to male...ehhh at best. Personally, I would never do that (as a straight woman). Maybe I'm a very traditional person but I would want the man to do the asking and know that he chose me, and that he didn't just marry me because he felt like he had to say yes, you know?

[melaniejaye]

S/O is male.
Im down for tradition as well however my S/O is a procrastinator at best. ImThinking about doing the unthinkable

[lupinlover]

I disagree with everything you've written in second paragraph.

[three_oh_five]

That's fine. I am by no means saying everyone has to abide by tradition, but I am traditional, so that's what I would want. If other females would propose to their male SO, that is their choice and I'm happy for them. Live and let live.

[i_love_freddie]

I wouldn't do it, but don't see an issue with it.

[sextangles]

YES. A million times yes.

Who made up the rule that it has to be the guy doing it? And what about in lesbian relationships? How do you decide who will do it then? Really makes you realize how arbitrary of a distinction it is.

I have a friend who's mum proposed to their dad. He had already proposed to her and she said no twice, but she had finally decided she was ready to get married so she asked him. I think there's something really awesome and empowering about her waiting until she had no doubts in her mind and then making the romantic gesture to him instead of it being the other way around. Women are autonomous beings who have complex emotions and struggle with decisions too, after all.

[melaniejaye]

Yes!!! I knew there was a reason i added you on here i love you. Havnt been on here lately but im sure i would love your posts too.

[sextangles]

<3

[gorgeousg]

I'm all for it!!

[melaniejaye]

Im all for it too its scary but....

[three_oh_five]

I do agree that it should be a mutual decision (i.e. I don't want a guy to buy me a ring and I have no clue that it's coming and it's someone I don't want to marry so then I say no). I think it should be talked about and planned, as in I know we are getting married and he knows I want to marry him, but I am just an old school romantic and I want the guy to propose. lol. Make sense?

[three_oh_five]

Edit: comment double posted.