I have a question for you all. (PLEASE RESPOND)

[melaniejaye]

Whats everyones thoughts about a femal@e proposing to her s/o?

Edit: this is a male female relationship in which the male would usually propose to the female. The female is the one who would like to propose.

Now however if the LGBT community is in here, when you plan on getting married how do you choose who will propose? I would assume it would be

Comments

[shdwcat]

you should do it!

i hope we get a followup post with the deets
i love a good love story

[stalkingsilence]

I think it's more than fine, and would do it myself if I was ever in a situation where I wanted to marry someone!

[goldfoil]

I personally find on the spot proposing uncomfortable and what decline if my bf did that. Marriage is something to talk about over a period and come to a decision together. For us, proposing would come at the end of discussions and probably be "Welp awesome, we're ready, let's be engaged now" followed by us squee-ing like the dorks we are ahah.

Similarly I would side eye any guy whose masculinity is so threatened by his gf getting on bended knee, doing the romantic spiel. So I'm sorry to hear your bf reacted like that and I hope you can talk about it with him more and find something that makes you both happy and excited for your future.

[melaniejaye]

Him and i have spoken on the topic a few times i know his timeline, i wasnt planning on asking until the time was presice. I just wanted to know how he would feel about it ( me proposing instead of him). I had gotten so many opinions and never his own.

[distracteddream]

I don't see an issue with the female SO proposing. However, like other people have commented, I think it's incredibly uncomfortable if the person being proposed to doesn't see it coming at all. I know a woman who proposed to her boyfriend because he wasn't going to do it anytime soon, and it didn't work out well because he wasn't interested in marriage and she was. They had discussed it and he told her this, but I think she expected proposing to change his mind, and of course it didn't

[melaniejaye]

Ive spoken to him about it a few times. I just wanted to feel out his opinion on the topic before moving forward wirh everything. Thanks for your response!!!

[iidx_girl]

It doesn't matter who proposes. I really see no reason why it would bother anybody