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[dawgboi]

I saw my shrink this weekend. He didn't understand that he had to decide when I could go on T. He was not happy about it. He's an ethical guy and he didn't want some paternalistic role where he gets to decide if I'm trans enough. But he wanted me to be able to use him and not have to go to someone else, so he figured out how to deal with it. I

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[engnyath]

yeah, waiting around for therapists is a pain in the ass. the one that i'm seeing won't give me my letter because she wants to wait until so much of my life isn't up in the air. yeah, well that could be years from now. who the hell knows when i'll have even a semi-permanent living situation? and going on T would help with some of my health problems...it would have prevented me from having to be in the ER for 14 1/2 hours....grrr....sometimes this system really pisses me off. i'm seeing her tomorrow and telling her that either she has my letter for me next week, or i'm getting T online and doing it myself!

[likethewatch]

dawg, take this as an opportunity. Saying that it's up to the therapist when you're ready to go on T is giving up your adult right to decide what's right for you and when. If your therapist is a good one, he'll help you ask yourself the right questions so you can figure that question out for yourself. Sure, technically, according to the SoC, your therapist is a gatekeeper, but that's not a natural or healthy position for a therapist to be in; it compromises the nature of your relationship as his patient. How can you honestly disclose and bare your soul to someone with a clipboard deciding whether you've passed the test?

Don't worry about TSC: you won't be the only guy there in your position, and you'll not lack opportunities to talk to others about this experience you're having. And I'll be there... it'll be great seeing you!