I think that maybe from the inside of this relationship it sounds fixable, but from here it sounds like he need actual help. I don't think there's a thing you can do, it seems he just has mental issues that he would need to go to therapist for. Putting yourself through this is cruel to yourself. That doesn't mean you should abandon him, but maybe you should find a therapist, you could even go together with him at first and kind of trick him into it if you have to. It can't be comfortable for him to live that way with all that instability.
yeah, i think you're right. he said he started meds once about 5 years ago, and stopped because they made him feel "weird." maybe if he had somebody supportive (ie. me) to help him he'd be more willing to take them. :)
I think he needs to be getting help with his personal issues before you guys can work on your issues as a couple. Perhaps encourage him, as a friend, to see a therapist so that he can improve his personal quality of life...and then just give him some space? If it's meant to be, I'm sure he'll come back.
However, if he's not willing to work on his issues and get some outside help...I say move on. You don't need to be putting yourself through this kind of thing over and over if he's not willing to put any effort into improving himself or the relationship.
*hug* I'm sorry to hear that things are tough right now. Hang in there, and stay updated. I hope everything works out for the best!
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However, if he's not willing to work on his issues and get some outside help...I say move on. You don't need to be putting yourself through this kind of thing over and over if he's not willing to put any effort into improving himself or the relationship.
*hug* I'm sorry to hear that things are tough right now. Hang in there, and stay updated. I hope everything works out for the best!
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