Comments | deepacino: Boys

deepacino

Boys

Jul 17, 2008 22:32

Ok seriously. I need some boy action...and I am feeling or acting quite neurotic at the moment. I've been living in Southeastern Ohio for awhile now. Nearly 6 months! And I am starting to get adjusted to church and adult life...at least to some extent. I have now made a circle of friends, which is great. I am pleased to have non-church member ( Read more... )

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I get what you are saying, but consider this... saoirseglen July 18 2008, 13:17:10 UTC

Deedee, I understand your viewpoint in this entry but consider this: It is the 21st century, you are a vibrant, liberated woman of the cloth and you are fully within your rights to call him and ask him out point blank. It could also be that he is really a shy guy who may feel slightly intimidated by your wondrous self. I know that is how I am around someone I find attractive or intriguing ( ... )

Re: I get what you are saying, but consider this... deepacino July 18 2008, 14:22:56 UTC

I agree with you on a lot of points. It doesn't feel as though he's afraid of the whole clergy thing. His dad is a minister, and he has told me repeatedly, "There need to be more ministers like you and my dad. You're just real folks." But my fear is that if I call, I am allowing him to have some sort of power over me. I am also afraid that if I call, I will be viewed as clingy. Girl Rules say I shouldn't call. But I'm not always one to follow Girl Rules. He seems interested enough, and I'm not looking for a boyfriend...just someone with whom to hang out, and perhaps play a little. It really bugs me. I feel as though I'm always the one to do the asking in these sorts of situations because I get tired of waiting. I just want "it", whatever "it" is over with so we can get on with our lives. I also usually think it's stupid to play cat and mouse games because if I want to hang out, I don't usually let something stupid come in between me, and that goal. Seems stupid and trivial to do so ( ... )

Re: I get what you are saying, but consider this... deepacino July 18 2008, 14:23:47 UTC

* correction* I don't think he's afraid of the whole clergy thing.

Re: I get what you are saying, but consider this... saoirseglen July 18 2008, 15:29:19 UTC

Sometimes boys aren't the brightest crayons in the box when it comes to relationships. However, asking in casual conversation, using a friendly tone, if something came up or if he forgot might give him the chance to make it up to you and not feel like you are clingy.

Now if you pestered him without ceasing, then that would be a bad thing. I think your other guy friend is right, call him and see what happens.

Not to be too randy, but I dig the theology gals because they are wilder than they appear. ;-)