I'd rather know, too. I think if the friend genuinely feels bad about your not being able to come and then suggests getting together another time, that would be the best. Otherwise, hearing about it from someone else would suck.
To me, whether I want someone to tell me has more to do with how they tell me and the intentions they have behind telling me.
If their intention is just to tell me and they are just going to call/email me and say "We're having a party and you're not invited." and that's the end of the conversation, then I don't need to know. Especially since in this group, I already know that there are parties and I'm not being invite to them because there are people I don't get along with.
If the person calls me and tells me that there's a party and they wish I could came because they miss me... And since the circumstances hasn't changed, maybe it would be nice for us to do something else sometime (especially if they are willing to actually suggest a time to hang out and/or something they would like to do with me)... Then I say, yeah: I would want that phone call or email and it would actually make me feel better about missing out on the party.
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If their intention is just to tell me and they are just going to call/email me and say "We're having a party and you're not invited." and that's the end of the conversation, then I don't need to know. Especially since in this group, I already know that there are parties and I'm not being invite to them because there are people I don't get along with.
If the person calls me and tells me that there's a party and they wish I could came because they miss me... And since the circumstances hasn't changed, maybe it would be nice for us to do something else sometime (especially if they are willing to actually suggest a time to hang out and/or something they would like to do with me)... Then I say, yeah: I would want that phone call or email and it would actually make me feel better about missing out on the party.
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