Driving

[dilly]

I've been told that I'm strong for making the decision that I did, in ending a fairytale-like, 2.5 year long relationship. I try to remember that every day, because invariably, I end up being the poster child for the exact opposite - I flood over with helpless tears until I fall asleep from emotional exhaustion, and then wake up several hours

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[earthdragon]

Doing what you know to be correct has nothing to do with how easy or hard it is.

[dilly]

Exactly. Simple logic for difficult circumstances, and well put.

this will all pass...

[divinelv]

Good job attaining your weight goal even if it wasn't how you had intended to do it. I've been where you are and know how difficult this time may be. I had the same fears about whether I would find someone better suited for me after each breakup. Despite the reason why you broke up with him in the first place, it's easy to wonder could all the bad still be better than the unknown out there?

Well, it's not. If you're driven to this decision after 2.5 years then you've probably tried everything you can. And trust me, there is someone better for you out there. Someone who will fulfill all your needs and desires. It's funny but sometimes we don't even know what we need until we've found the person who fulfills that. Don't worry. You're beautiful and that will happen once you're ready for it.

*Hugs*

Re: this will all pass...

[dilly]

L, thank you so much for your amazing advice!!! I can hear the experience ringing through your words with such clarity, and it really helps to have that reassurance and encouragement. Deeply and sincerely, thank you.

I am uncertain and apprehensive, but I also believe in your philosophy. So I'll keep striving for that happy ending, and thank you for being there along the way. :) *hug*

[caffeineguy]

very bummed to hear about this, laurie. reading this entry really makes me curious as to why you ended this relationship in the first place.

[dilly]

Long story, as it always is, and hard to tell from any particular viewpoint because of all perspectives involved. But if you ever make another bday road trip up to SF and can get together, let me know (ahead of time, plz. Last time Daniel txted me to come out after I had crawled into bed :P) and we'll catch up!

[little_pooh_1]

*lots of hugs* Sorry to hear it didn't work out Laurie :( I know it's hard not to think about him, but I promise it gets better with time. I still catch myself thinking of J. sometimes, but I quickly remind myself that it would never have worked out and I would be miserable if I decided to stay. It won't be easy, but you will pull through. Email me if you need to chat! ~C

[bogosort]

Tis unfortunate to hear that you're in a bit of a rough spot right now. I have no doubt that you'll emerge from this fork in the road stronger than before. Just make sure to take care of yourself in the meantime(and certainly don't brush away friends and family).

*hugs*