From Robert

[diluvian]

First I want to thank all of those that have sent me good and supportive comments (and thoughts). Although at the same time it makes me even more sad as I see how many others are also hurting

Comments

[azureavian]

dreams don't often tell us straight out what we are thinking. you are dealing with the loss of many things, while not wanting to really think about it. your dreams will focus on dealing, even tho it may go about it round-about.

don't hate yourself, you gave her everything you had.

[alizarin_nyc]

I just returned from vacation and have read these last few entries... I am so surprised and shocked and sad. Robert, my heart goes out to you. Hang in there, you know Jen loves you and wants you to be okay. You must be in shock, and I pray your family and therapy can help you deal with your grief.

I'm just... I have no words. I will miss her and can't believe she's gone. Be well, Robert, and please feel free to use her LJ; we are here for you.

[anonymous]

Robert,
You did not fail her !!! It was juat a juxtaposition of shitty circumstances....... and was way beyond your control.

Don't hate yourself. She wouldn't want that.

After things settle down a bit, try meditating on her just before you sleep.... she may come to you in dreams to console you. And in the daytimes, talk to her, out loud, just like she was there. It helps.

And remember, you too are loved.

[anonymous]

Dearest Robert,

You did not in any way fail her. You were her heart and soul. Be gentle with yourself and know that you are loved and precious to many. Auntie

[iczerbell]

A friend just told me something which I think is good advice--never shuffle the deck of cards called "if"

You did not fail her and she wouldn't want you to hate yourself. She was happy and loved. The most important things in life.