From Robert

[diluvian]

For the foreseeable future I am going to use Jen's LJ account to post things-mostly about what I am going through and what is going with final arrangements

Comments

[morgandawn]

Hi there - another one of Jen's fannish friends from here in the Bay Area. One of the reasons we have these accounts (at least one of *my* reasons) is to stay in touch with people and to give them updates on what is going on in my life and find out what is going on in their lives. I also use it as a reality check on my life. I know if something were to happen to me, I would want my SO to use my LJ - to inform my friends, to work through the grieving process and just to share thoughts and memories. Know that people are reading your posts and care about you, just as they read and cared about Jen.

[yin_again]

I think it's a good thing that you're using Jen's journal to work through your feelings. Every one of us who cared about her care about you. I didn't know Jen well, but she was always kind to me in our interactions. I hope you can take some comfort in her LJ friends.

[jay_jay]

LJ is journaling space and sometimes journaling really helps when you're grieving. I think most people here are very open to supporting all memebers of their community and you have, in this terrible way, become part of this community. I hope just writing and knowing you have our ears will help you in some small way to find peace.

[azureavian]

i for one will be staying friended until such time as you indicate you don't want to be. from all descriptions, you were one of the reasons i wanted to meet her. i will comment if i find something to comment on, and hope you will do the same with me. if you find you need to take a different name, please feel free to do so--these journals are ourselves and people do identify with their names very much--tho you may find this name to fit you just fine (or the connection to be something you need).

Curious

[diluvian]

Not to be nosy, so feel free to decline to answer, why was I one of the reasons you wanted to meet Jen? Please don't be offended if this is a bit of a personal question.

-Robert

Re: Curious

[azureavian]

well, she talked about you quite a bit and i decided you were someone i wanted to meet. well, i wanted to meet both of you, and looked forward to her comments all the time. eh, hard to explain i guess. you both just seemed like someone know-worthy.

Re: Curious

[diluvian]

Not to sound to awkward but I think I would like to meet you. It makes me sad Jen and I could not have met you together...

I think I'm going need the help of friends, even if they started out as Jen's friends. While I do have a few close friends, I didn't have as many as Jen-I think sometimes she worried about that for me. Now I'm worried too.

-Robert

[thefourthvine]

If you got a new account and kept journaling - and told us what your new name was - a lot of us would probably keep an eye on it, one way or another, at least until we were sure you would be okay. Or, at any rate, that's what happened the last time the husband of a fan who died got a different LJ

Response from Robert

[diluvian]

Thank you for the support. Since I know what the entries from Jen mean to all of her LJ friends I have no intention of deleting any of her posts or her account.

Speaking of which I should probably run that LJ archive tool every once in a while...don't want to lose anything. It's a part of her I never want to lose.

-Robert