Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)guiltyhousewifeApril 15 2011, 14:49:14 UTC
I can so see this. It's going to be an exercise for me, because they are both very-masculine characters, and I usually fall into the habit of feminizing one character (left over from my anime-fanfic-days), but it's a habit that needs a'breaking, because honestly, homosexual male couples can have just about any dynamic, not just masculine/feminine.
Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)afterandalasiaApril 15 2011, 14:50:52 UTC
Ha, I've been having this discussion with a couple of friends of mine recently... insisting that homosexual couples still have that man/woman (or butch/femme, in the case of this argument) dynamic. It was quiet surprising to see their reactions.
Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)guiltyhousewifeApril 15 2011, 16:50:00 UTC
In anime you have the seme/uke relationship, in which the uke (bottom/catcher) is so feminized I have a hard time visually discerning them as male, lol. It's odd, but I don't criticize. I mean, I feel like I could never really make a definitive statement on gay relationships because I am not a gay male. I say whatever dynamic a gay male is in, it is correct (as long as both participants are happy
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Trigger warnings: DAafterandalasiaApril 15 2011, 17:35:56 UTC
Ah, I see what you mean. And my friends were the ones saying that the man/woman dynamic is everywhere. Personally, I was vaguely baffled by the idea... the media seems so confused about it all, after all. Like the stereotypical image of lesbians as butch, and yet lesbians in the media are almost always what's called "lipstick lesbians": femmes who like femmes. In the same way that you can get really ~macho~ straight men and really ~metrosexual~ straight men... well, it's a range of gender expression. And people of any sexuality can choose any place on that range of gender expression, if that makes sense
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Re: Trigger warnings: DAguiltyhousewifeApril 15 2011, 17:53:48 UTC
Lol, I love your subject line, "Trigger Warnings".
In the United States, we don't have really any popular/media/governmental acknowledgment of dysfunction inside of homosexual relationships, except that many cop-shows choose to discuss the permanence of "party and play" drugs in gay-lifestyle, which I think paints the wrong picture that every gay male has to take Ecstasy or something to function sexually.
I also believe another barrier to healing and rescue in a domestic-violence situation within a gay relationship is the idea that men are supposed to be strong and durable and fighters, so a man who is being abused gets the accusations of weakness and femininity. Society just excepts a man to react with a fist to any physical attack, when in reality domestic abuse is more complicated than that.
Re: Trigger warnings: DAguiltyhousewifeApril 15 2011, 18:18:41 UTC
You know, I'm usually not a comment-whore (that term cracks me up while still befuddling me) but I would actually love to hear your detailed imput on that fill. That fic was by far my most ambitious and timely, and one of the only ones I did a rough draft and proofread for. I listened to that song over and over, part one and two
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Re: Trigger warnings: DAafterandalasiaApril 15 2011, 18:50:22 UTC
I'm just finishing another fill (very cute and fluffy, total contrast to this and to my usual writing style, hah) but I do plan to sit down and read it through thoroughly, so you may get a tl;dr of a response there.
It may be because I'm creepy by nature but... I hooked into the dark side of the song pretty well straight off. I hadn't heard that there was a second part before, though. I know what you mean about some people reading things wrong, but you always get that. Wuthering Heights is, of course, the classic for that one. But the whole situation in abusive relationships is damaging, and often (but not always) linked to vulnerability, on both sides, the only time that you really can draw parallels between the two sides I think
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Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)guiltyhousewifeApril 20 2011, 20:49:07 UTC
Not to interupt or anything lol but I'm just wondering if you did a fill for this prompt yet? Or if you are planning to anytime soon cause I LOVE this pairing and there just has to be more stuff for them out there.
Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)guiltyhousewifeApril 21 2011, 03:40:54 UTC
John Smith didn’t know quite what he was expecting when he burst through the rocks and into the water- the source of the noise could have been a number of things, an animal, a fellow English-man, the wind- but what he did find took his breath more surely away than any bear or cougar could have
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Re: Prompt (Pocahontas)guiltyhousewifeApril 21 2011, 03:42:14 UTC
His train of thought was disturbed when he was brought to a stop. Through their forested enclosure, they could make out the men guarding the doors, the patrollers marching the border. Even Thomas, there, entering the fort with an armload of shovels. Should he cry out? But as soon as he voiced the idea, at least internally, he rejected it. He was John Smith, he didn’t need rescue
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more prompts for that would be appreciated!
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In the United States, we don't have really any popular/media/governmental acknowledgment of dysfunction inside of homosexual relationships, except that many cop-shows choose to discuss the permanence of "party and play" drugs in gay-lifestyle, which I think paints the wrong picture that every gay male has to take Ecstasy or something to function sexually.
I also believe another barrier to healing and rescue in a domestic-violence situation within a gay relationship is the idea that men are supposed to be strong and durable and fighters, so a man who is being abused gets the accusations of weakness and femininity. Society just excepts a man to react with a fist to any physical attack, when in reality domestic abuse is more complicated than that.
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It may be because I'm creepy by nature but... I hooked into the dark side of the song pretty well straight off. I hadn't heard that there was a second part before, though. I know what you mean about some people reading things wrong, but you always get that. Wuthering Heights is, of course, the classic for that one. But the whole situation in abusive relationships is damaging, and often (but not always) linked to vulnerability, on both sides, the only time that you really can draw parallels between the two sides I think ( ... )
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