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[heartovmidnight]

I have a question for everyone on a topic that's recently been brought up ...

What should we qualify as an LDR? Should we have a distance limit? A time between visits limit? Should we even have a limit?

I'm just questioning the validity of a 50 mile distance, seeing each other every weekend as an LDR.

Thoughts?

Comments

[wordupyo]

I think if you live in a different town, you're LD. Distance is distance, whether it's 50 miles or 500 miles. It's hard being away from the one you love, no matter what. I don't think it's fair to make limits. Lifestyles play a large role in LDRs as much as distance does.

[_headrush_]

I completely agree. You can live just a few towns away and still only see each other a few times a month. it depends on the situation and the people involved and their lifestyles, all of which different from couple to couple.

[somethingpirate]

I don't know - the way I see it, if someone feels that they're in a long distance relationship, they are. Just because they get to see each other more often than some of us do or did, or have less distance between each other than some of us do or did, doesn't make it less valid.

That's just my two cents. =)

[photogfrog]

If there is not an ocean between you or a major immigration hassle, it's not LDR. :P (I kid, I kid)

Ok, that was joking, but in ways, because that is what I have had to deal with, hearing that someone is 100 KMS from their BF is nothing. Yet...I know it is something if you are a teenager or if you are in uni and the like.

Also, frequency of visits is something. If you can see them once a week without having to pay a lot of money or FLY, again, maybe it's my envy coming out, but that is not too LDR.

Everyone is different. I think that if they are shorter distance, perhaps some explanation of what makes it LDR and why it's hard to get together would help. Saying "I'm in Hong Kong and he is in Australia" is pretty straightforward, but "He's 40 miles away", I'd want to know why you are not seeing each other more.

[artistic_g4m3r]

I dunno, maybe it's because my LDR involved being 3000 miles away and not seeing my boy anywhere from 3-6 months, I wouldn't consider 50miles and every weekend as LDR. Hell, I've moved and I see him pretty much once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less, depends on my school work.

But I also grew up in a middle-of-nowhere area where something that was 50 miles away was still relatively close. That's what? Maybe an hour drive?

I dunno. Once a week dosen't seem LD to me.

[_headrush_]

I think that a 50 mile distance is a fair enough distance if the couple can't see each other on a weekly basis. like they see each other for one day out of two weeks.

Frequency should play a small role. It's easier for couples to see each other once a week than for couples who see each other bi weekly, monthly, bimonthly, etc.